Is it too soon to hope for a new relationship?

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I found out STBXH had been cheating October 2017 when I was a few weeks pregnant. Tried to hold out to the marriage but found out some more lies summer 2018 when I had a small baby and a toddler and decided it was over. I'm partway through the divorce and have coped with the kids with little help from my ex. To my surprise, i have met somebody a few times recently who I have a massive crush on, no idea if he feels the same. Does it sound really early? I feel like if it actually went anywhere, I would be judged for moving on so soon as I have such small children. Obviously the kids are my priority, I wouldn't rush into involving them but I feel guilty for even daydreaming about this guy!

Sod everyone else. Be happy. This is your life, not anyone elses. Be sensible though..one step at a time! But it sounds like you're sensible anyway.

Not too soon to rediscover your own personal life but slowly slowly. Date, but keep it separate. My 'boyfriend' of two years knows my kids, they know him, but nothing would change if it didn't work out as far as they are concerned.

Oh and yes, screw what anyone else thinks. It's entirely irrelevant.

Just be careful and it’s fine. You don’t even know if he is interested yet by the sounds of it so it’s all hypothetical. Shows you are coming to terms with things though and human!

Thank you all. Yes it is all hypothetical but I'm finding it hard not to daydream in my head. It's so weird, I never thought I would go through this crush, butterfly stage again as I fully committed to my ex. Whether or not anything ever happens, it's pretty significant that I feel this way at all in terms of my recovery.

@Angrybird123 I was wondering how to define slow, the question of how much would change for kids if a relationship broke down is a really good way of checking what's appropriate, thanks.