Cutting sister out

[Horsesforcourses23]

Hi all!

I have posted before about my on going issues with my sister. In short she's an alcoholic, albeit at the moment in recovery which is good, however that coupled with temper & mood issues means life with her is basically unbearable. She has a little boy and he spends alot of time with me (sort of like a shared agreement)

However I am finding her increasingly difficult to deal with and I am exhausted with her. I literally am at the end of my tether. If she didn't have my nephew I would have cut her off a long time ago.

The point of my message is, has anyone ever cut off a sibling but maintained the relationship with their nieces / nephews?

Do social services know the hellish life the kids is having with her?

If it's too much for you, what's it like for him

I didn't want to leave your post unanswered. I have experience of not having contact with sibling. This meant that I did not have contact with the DNs. There was a location difficulty in this mix. I have assumed that you live closer to DSis. Is it a formal arrangement that you have DN through SS or Court?
Do you have to communicate when DN arrives or leaves? You could restrict the conversation to - had fish fingers and chips and wet himself so washing in his bag. Other than essential information don't enter into any conversation.
I am surprised at how many siblings are friendly. It is sad but I can see that an alcoholic is not great company

Thank you both for your responses, I am sorry its taken so long to reply. @springydaff honestly they don't intervene he say's "all the right" things to them so they haven't been involved in over 12 months.

@stillme1 thank you, yes we live close by, I have restricted contact before, but the moment there's trauma she's on the phone, screaming and shouting and generally being unpleasent. I am frightened to block her incase 1) Anything bad happens 2) She stop's me from seeing him

What is your main concern here, your nephews safety or your own mental health. They are both important but advice would be different. If you DO NOT fear for his safety, then prioritise your mental health and stop contact. You probably will not get to see him anymore. If you are worried about his safety you should document all instances of potential neglect, binges etc and present it to social services again.

Whatever happens it will be VERY hard for you to have a relationship with your nephew without also having a relationship of sorts with his mum until he is of an age to make his own arrangements.

@Horsesforcourses It is so difficult because mainly a wee child is used as a pawn in your alcoholic sister attempts to get you to do as she wishes. It is emotional blackmail but I don't think anyone knows how to respond to this kind of treatment
If anyone does know how to deal with this please let us all know