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Help: confused (Possible Conflict)

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Ramaco · 22/03/2019 08:57

Hi
The issue is that I’m unsure about what to do. So let’s start at the beginning well me and my daughter dad broke up when she was about 9months old my daughter is now 2yrs old.

  1. So this is the issue when he dropped her off last week, he just left her at the door chapped and ran down the stairs and those stair are outside and made of stone and it is the full flight of stairs! So if she ran towards them after him in a panic she could have seriously hurt herself.
  2. She has been given an inhaler by the doctor and he refuses to give it to her which means since when she comes back her breathing seems to get worst he point blank refused to take it.
  3. Normally we have a wee 5 mins chat when we meet up at the meeting point during the last exchange he just lifted her from her buggy and walk off it was quite busy without to giving her a chance to say bye.
  4. Her dad he currently lives with his parents but I don’t think they knew what he done with regards to leaving her at the front door. But I know it is his mum who doesn’t like doctors full stop, even though she was a nurse I bet that it is his mum and dad who take more to do with her than he does.
5.Also this he has just been offered somewhere to live he is taking it but he told me that he won’t be living there when the wee one is there which as far as I see it that he can’t handle her on his own and he needs his mum and dad to help out who are hitting the age of standard retirement in the uk.
  1. He also said not to contact him when he is at work which will be in about 2mins unless it is important but I would presume that he would check his phone at lunch break he also said not to contact him on Thursday night because he is at college.
So basically I would like some advice on what to message him to tell him that he is getting her overnight until I see that he is fit in body and mind to look after her properly.
OP posts:
NotTheFordType · 22/03/2019 09:05

I think you need some proper legal advice TBH.

Were you/are you married? Does he have PR {ie is he on the birth certificate}

Has he been having regular contact with her since the break up?

This is just IME (I'm not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV) but the only possible issue here for SS/courts to get involved in is not giving her the inhaler. But that is a BIG issue. Has she been referred to the asthma clinic or is this just from the GP right now? Does she have a formal diagnosis?

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