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What to make of this photo?!

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 20:13

Hi. This is lighthearted ... kind of.
I've been chatting to a guy on Match for a few days now. Not sure we really have much in common, but he seems nice enough, so when he suggested we move the chat to WhatsApp, I thought 'why not'.
His first message has just come through, and I'm really not sure what to make of his profile pic. Basically, his arse is out! For context, the photo has been taken beside a traditional, old-fashioned painting with some swooning ladies in it. On the one hand, it made me giggle. But on the other, it's a bit much from someone I don't even know Hmm
What would you make of if? I tend to err on the side of prudishness, hence the interest in others' opinions.
Thanks Smile

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Mother87 · 21/03/2019 21:15

"Trousers down backside out" GrinGrinGrin* and they say romance is deadGrinGrinGrin Sounds HIDEOUS...* unless that's your sort of thingConfusedbut you've already said it's not... And if that's on a relatively public profile - what gems would be in store once he 'relaxed' and got to know you Am sure he's "lovely" and all that but you've been shown his natureGrinand more

Mother87 · 21/03/2019 21:16

"Time and a place for mooning"GrinGrinGrinGrin

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 21:24

it was also tattooed

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Sunshineandflipflops · 21/03/2019 21:26

Bleurgh! I have a thing and maybe it’s just me, that I don’t really want to see any parts of a mans body you wouldn’t see in every day life, unless I am getting intimate with him!

Sunshineandflipflops · 21/03/2019 21:27

So many topless profile pictures OLD and I can’t swipe left quick enough.

onionchucker · 21/03/2019 21:27

It was tattooed???
What was the tattoo?

Mother87 · 21/03/2019 21:28

A bonus tattoo - the gift that keeps on givingGrinGrinGrinwas it a "W" on each cheek perchanceGrinGrinGrin

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 21:29

Ha! It was a single red rose 🌹😄🤮

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 21:32

Fuck me, I am absolutely going to be single forever at this rate. Anyone who doubts this can also refer to my other recent thread, about getting someone out of your mind Grin if you even remotely give a shit!

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Stormyday · 21/03/2019 21:32

What? On his arse cheek?

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 21:33

Ever so slightly to the side of left cheek.

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onionchucker · 21/03/2019 21:55

I'd rather be single forever than with some bloke in his 40s who thinks everyone wants to marvel at his arse, complete with red rose.

caruti33 · 21/03/2019 22:04

Tell him that its off-putting. He will chanfe it if you are his perfect person. He could be the perfect person for you and you've dismissed him because of a jokey picture? You'll be single forever if you are this picky (sorry to be harsh). He might not even realise that this is why he's over 40, perfect in every other way. Life's too short to say bye because of a dodgy picture!

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 22:15

But the kind of person who is compatible with me wouldn't have set that as his profile pic in the first place Confused And as I said, I was in doubt over how much we'd have in common even before this.

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ConfCall · 21/03/2019 22:16

I'm cringing for him. It seems so puerile. But...you never know. He may be great!

My friend has just got rid of a really complicated, unpleasant man met via OLD - his profile pic was a nice smiley headshot. Just sayin".

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 21/03/2019 23:06

He had his arse out in a gallery/museum?

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 23:15

I didn't examine it too closely, but it looked that way to me. Or perhaps it was some kind of faux or spoof 'masterpiece'. Either way, it's not really to my taste!
To the previous poster, I do get your point. Good and bad people can come in all different forms, and sometimes deceptively so.
All things considered however, I'll take my chances on this one Smile
Thanks again to all of you for the replies. I think where online dating is concerned, often we couldn't make this stuff up!

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Mrsmummy90 · 21/03/2019 23:19

Personally, I'd find it a turn off. I'm not attracted to childish 'lads'. I like my men to be fun but mature.

Mrsmummy90 · 21/03/2019 23:21

Just read that he's mooning in his 40's with a rose tattooed on his arse 🙈 100% walk away and never look back! 😂

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Dieu · 21/03/2019 23:25

Me too, mrsmummy!

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FineWordsForAPorcupine · 22/03/2019 07:18

To have this set as his WhatsApp profile picture he either :

  1. Doesn't understand how WhatsApp works - that anyone (family, business contacts, under eighteens, etc) who has his number can see it
  2. Does know the above but doesn't care/thinks its so hilarious that it's "worth it for the bantz"
  3. Has a special phone/number he uses exclusively for dating and has reserved this "cheeky" snap for that profile

Which means he is either ignorant, boorish or sleazy. Which do you reckon it is? Grin

ScreamingValenta · 22/03/2019 07:24

I'd imagine from that picture he'd be the type of man who is forever clowning around and being childish. I don't think it makes him a bad person, but unless I had other compelling reasons to think we were a good match, it would put me off.

ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth · 22/03/2019 08:43

What would you make of if? I tend to err on the side of prudishness, hence the interest in others' opinions said at 20.13

Have already decided to move on said at 20.51

Didn't really need others opinions then, did you? Smile

I've never got my ass out for a photo. Anyone did that can fuck right off.

notacooldad · 22/03/2019 08:56

God how old is he? If he's over 25 then hes ridiculously immature
Blimey you are generous! I would have said 13!!

Dollywilde · 22/03/2019 09:01

DH (mid 30s) has a few of these sorts of photos from his uni days Hmm however..

  1. He wouldn’t want anyone to see them nowadays
  2. Least of all all his contacts
  3. He sure as hell wouldn’t have tried to woo me with it
  4. He’s significantly grown up since then (thank god Grin)

I don’t think the picture’s existence necessarily means he’s a knob, but the fact he’s clearly proud of it in his 40s is enough that I would steer clear!

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