How do you....

[Myheartbelongsto]

Deal with/approach a parent who is a drug addict/alcoholic because their 12 year old is bullying your 12 year old?

Threatened to kill hi when he got his hands on him, my son hadn't been out for a week to play due to threats. Eventually braved it only to be beaten up.

I wouldn't even consider approaching the parent. There is no reasoning with a drug addict. You need to go to the police. If your child was beaten up, that's assault and a serious crime.

Police.

You might be doing their poor child a favour too. Must be toxic at home.

I would also report this to the police.

The trouble with the police is she would probably retaliate in some way and the police here are useless.

I was thinking I might contact Social Services in a couple of weeks so that she wouldn't think it was me and his school. he is a first year in secondary school and my boy is in last year of primary. We often see him going to school in the morning when we are leaving and he should have already been in school so is regularly late and often comes home at lunchtime and doesn't bother going back into school.

I feel sorry for this young lad to be honest.

Police and school

I would not approach them directly, and that's based on personal experience.

Police here were shit at this sort of issue too. My 10yr old DS had a knife pulled on him and his money (for the ice cream van) taken off him.

Police didn't give a shit. This was in a "not naice" area. I have a feeling if I'd called them from one of the posher areas of town they'd have been round in 5 minutes with sirens on.

Does your DS walk home with friends or on his own? If on his own could he team up with some other friends and walk with them? If it's in the opposite direction, who cares, just go to Tom's house, spend 5 mins saying hello to his mum, then come home, by which time the bully will be at home presumably. (Obviously speak to Tom's mum first so she knows what's going on.)

Is there any public transport he could take if the above isn't feasible?

Sorry. I misread and thought this was happening on the way to/from school. So the bully and his mum are relatively close neighbours to you?

A knife!! My god, I thought I had it bad but that is dreadful and terrifying!

We live in the same estate but she is the far side so never bump into her thank God.

There's a little park in the middle and this kid seems to always be in in roughing other kids up and chucking them off the swing.

He moved in recently and when he first started making friends here I let him play in the house, gave him dinner etc and this is how he treats my son.

I know he lives in a 2 bed apartment with his mum and older brother and he was sleeping on the sofa as his mum had one room and his older brother the other. My son has a lovely room and we live in a lovely 5 bed house so at first I thought it might just be jealousy so we opened our home to him and now this.