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Marriage woes

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Gethin2503 · 21/03/2019 11:26

It's a bit of along story so bear with me!! I'm not sure what to do stay or go!!
I hav been with my husband for 6 years only married for 2 we have 2 children 3 yrs and 10 weeks
We don't get on anymore at all, we bicker constantly and they end up in massive arguments over nothing but they are constant and tiring. He tells me that I am moody, grumpy mean nasty horrible all the time to him (I'm just tired and openly admit that I can be grumpy!!) twice he has mentioned suicide wen he thinks I'm leaving, once on my first ever mothers day after an argument which is why I married him! And once last year after an argument wen I was pregnant. After which he agreed to go to counselling with me which we did for couple months, and he stated there that he was scared of me 80% of the time?!?! Bear in mind I'm tiny have never raised a hand to him and would never have never threatened him, its because I am grumpy and moody and nasty to him apparently
I had a difficult pregnancy but through it all I felt constantly on edge as I wasn't allowed to have moods with my hormones or be tired and I had bad infection after I had the baby but he argued with me the day after and the night we bought her home. It has been constant arguments and bickering since then. I have told him that I love him but am not in love with him anymore and we don't have a spark. He's normal one minute then will try and push for me to make a decision about our marriage. Is it me? I don't know what to do

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stacktherocks · 21/03/2019 14:08

Being physically smaller than him and not having hit him doesn’t mean you’re not frightening to him. By your own admission you’re ‘grumpy’, and given that people usually downplay how bad they really are I can well imagine he’s telling the truth that he’s scared of you. If you told me you were scared of him I’d believe you.

But anyway, you don’t love him anymore. So why does it matter? Why aren’t you separating? You sound mutually miserable.

Gethin2503 · 21/03/2019 15:09

I openly admit that I can be grumpy I hav a toddler and baby but he says this when I'm not at all so I don't see how I can be scary which to me is quite hurtful to say
I do love him but am not in love anymore and it's not as simple as just leave as we are married with 2kids

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NotTheFordType · 21/03/2019 21:45

Don't "they" say to not make any major life decisions for a year after an event like losing a parent or having a baby?

Think back to your last pregnancy. Was he different in the level of support?

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