Don't know what I'm doing anymore!

[MissInconsiderate]

Basically I don't love my oh at all. We have 2dc together.
Silly me contacted an ex (literally to apologise to him for leaving and how bad I treated him when we were together) the thing is this ex I swear is the love of my life. Always thought I'd end up with him, have kids, get married ect. When together had a mc. After talking to him he told me he had bought me a ring and was planning a proposal but because I ended it he was so shocked and hurt he didn't try and fight for me back.
We've been talking over the phone alot and everything is good, we have years to catch up on, his voice just turns me on. He brings all of them feelibgs back and more.

I think I just needed to get that out. Feel bit better now

If you want to leave then make a plan and do it.

Don't start an emotional affair. That's a tittish thing to do.

So why do you think it would work out with your ex now and it didn't before? And you treated him badly - why is that? And why are you treating your dog badly now by having an emotional affair??

@Tomtontom I have a plan in my head and I want to through with leaving just difficult when have 2young dc.
@Misti myex understands me. I treated him bad because we were never an official couple and it killed me, we was more on and off than me treating him bad I suppose. I'd always go back to him.
An emotional affair? Suppose I don't see it as that but you're right.

I had to read "why are you treating your dog badly now by having an emotional affair?" a few times before I realised it was a typo!

I think a couple of weeks with your ex will remind you why you split up.

If you want to rekindle things with an ex you need to first end your current relationship. It is not fair to anyone otherwise.

@Moanymoaner123 I know. Me and oh have discussed splitting up and he's just not keen on that idea because of DC. He reckons we can make it work for the sake of our DC. I'm not sure if he's scared I won't let him have access to them or something. He's refusing to leave. Admittedly it would be easier if he left because of DC and all belongings. Selfish I know. I am going to have to leave, he won't let me. I'll have to go when he is out or something g and sort out belongings at a later date maybe.

What do you mean he won't let you leave?
Is there more to this story?
Is your DH kind and loving?
Are you scared of him?

We have 2dc together

You're also pregnant with his baby at the moment but considering an abortion (you've had one abortion previously).

What you do about your baby is up to you. But what you should be doing is leaving your husband and be on your own with your children for a long while and adjust to your new situation. Sort your head out. Then and only then consider whether you want to consider the possibility of talking with your ex.

Two separate issues-

• leave your current relationship as amicably as possible, it's obviously dead in the water. Don't be bullied into changing your mind.

• after the dust has settled, and your DCs are used to the new arrangement, start seeing ex - but be cautious.

Thankyou @ConfCall advice taken on board.
@ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth indeed this is true thanks
@hellsbellsmelons he is loving. Not scared of him. Just he would do everything in power to prevent me going with dc

Living or playing up to the username I see.

So you treated him like shit but he's the love of your life?

How old are you?

@Sausage101 its irrelevant how old I am ta!
I didn't really treat him like shit just was on and off and should've been on with him as oppose to off!