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Always to blame

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Patfrog · 20/03/2019 23:20

My partner well if we can call him that but that is a different story for another time. Was absent from my son life as he was always in and out of prison. I was 16 when I fell pregnant just 17 when I gave birth. Anyway my son is now 20 and his relationship with his father is not the best. He recently was finished up from work and has been lazy in finding a new job. He has now which is great, he is the complete opposite to his father and is a really good kid never brings trouble well mannered and people often comment on meeting him what a good job I have done raising him. Past couple of years his dad has been very critical of how I have raised him saying he is lazy and selfish and it’s my fault as in was the one who did the job of raising him. He blames me for everything he does that he don’t agree with as well as everything else that goes wrong he is always telling me how bad a person I am and am a bad mum to him and our 4 year old daughter. Does he hate me I don’t know any advise

OP posts:
curlykaren · 20/03/2019 23:31

I'm confused as to how or why he is in your life, do you live together?

Patfrog · 20/03/2019 23:45

Yes we do sorry did not make that clear in original postb

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AtrociousCircumstance · 20/03/2019 23:54

OP, this man is a waste of time. He’s critical and nasty and a criminal. You don’t have to waste any more time trying to understand him - he’s mean and critical and you would be better off without him.

H0wt0kn0w · 20/03/2019 23:56

He sounds awful OP.

You're not a bad mother. You raised a child alone from a very young age while the man who impregnated you (sorry but you were only 16) did time in prison, and he has the audacity to stand in judgement of you.

I can tell from your post that you 'give' and he takes and you're probably a terrible people pleaser. You're looking for his approval to feel comfortable and never quite getting it/? He puts you up on trial (metaphorically) and you have to defend yourself to him!? And that makes him feel better about himself. At your expense.

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