Porn and online chat sites

[Bluebelle68]

Hi.

My husband watches porn - I know a lot of men do. I thought I was ok with it but I’m not. In addition he signs up to sex sites, now I know they are all scams and that he gets nowhere with them as he is not prepared to pay.

We have had a discussion about this, well several and he always has some excuse - wanted to see what it was about; he loves me and would never be unfaithful. He has even suggested that it would be a way of him making money!

Anyway, i’ve Said I can’t be doing with any sort of contract with the women - messaging , texting etc. Now I find that he has been on google hang outs. And again, i know that they are all scams, but it is the fact he seems to ignore what I say and how I feel.

Part of me wants to just ignore it, as i know he wouldnt be unfaithful, but part of me hates it. And i will struggle with confronting him as he will then know that i have been tracking what he does. And that feels wrong.

I have thought of blocking and turning off the porn stuff via the virgin media WiFi - but the message says it is on child safe and it would be obvious.

Any words of wisdom, or someone who has been though the same.

Thanks

Do you still respect him knowing all of this? It sounds like dealing with a child.

As far as I'm aware Google hangouts isnt a scam it's a chat service in gmail.

However I'm prepared to be told I'm wrong.

However my ex husband done things like this and i lost all respect for him and eventually divorced him.

They're certainly not all scams. Fabswingers, for example, is a very well known and reputable free site. You've also got Swinging Heaven and if he's kinky, Fetlife. Not to mention Tinder.

So he's either gullible enough to be on the "Facebook of Sex" or "Local Mums Want To Fuck Now" type sites, where the object is to rinse the man of money, and believe he can make money out of this (how the fuck has he come to this conclusion?) AND get free sex, or he's also using the actual real hookup sites, where the object is to hook up.

i know he wouldnt be unfaithful
He's doing a pretty good job of proving you wrong.

I'd install a keylogger on his PC or laptop.

He is on his mobile android phone

Then I'd install a keylogger on that. Or swipe his phone when he's asleep/out of the house and read the messages he's been sending.