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Difficult brother

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TightPants · 20/03/2019 20:57

I wasn’t sure where to post this but hope I’ll get some replies here.

My brother is highly anxious, aggressive, depressed, super sensitive (when it comes to himself - he’s not at all sensitive towards others). He’s makes racist and sexist comments, talks over people and is also on the cusp of losing his job.
I think he’s heading for a mental breakdown.

Despite all the above, I love him and want to help him as he’s so unhappy.
His friends have fallen away and he lives on his own. He’s seperated and sees his kids twice per month.

He has absolutely no insight into how he comes accross to others: miserable, moaning, always seeing the worst in people and every situation - if I try to say something positive to counteract his negativity I get a scornful remark or talked over. Or he gets the hump as I’m not agreeing with him.

He’s a big guy and he doesn’t listen to anyone, has an aggressive, dismissive way with him.

I avoid him, as I can only cope with him in small doses. Our poor dad is also at a loss as to how to help him.

He has been ‘difficult’ his whole life, but he got much worse when his wife left him with their kids. He became really bitter and angry.
I begged him to get counselling and he was open to that, but then he made excuses and it never happened.

Despite all the above, he can be the kindest person - he would help anyone and he used to be very popular with many friends.

Yesterday I messaged him suggesting he sees his GP to get some support during this stressful time but he didn’t respond.

I’m at a loss. I want to help him - I’m so worried he’ll end up totally alone.

Any suggestions please? I’m so worried about him.

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