Meeting husband's new partner - advice please

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Hi all,

Feeling pretty sad this evening. My husband (we are not divorced, despite having been separated for almost 5 years) has told me he has a new partner and wants me to meet her as he plans to merge he into his & our son's (6) life.

I am trying to keep an open mind. Desperately trying. But struggling, as I think I have picked up on some (negative) stuff he's recently done as probably having been heavily influenced by the new partner.

I would love to feel like we could have a mature, respectful relationship, despite the circumstances, but I am finding that hard given the above.

I am planning to meet her. But part of me wonders if this is going to do me any favours; if she is a complete nightmare, it will just make me feel very anxious every time my son goes to his dad's.

Help and advice most welcome please. And please be kind, I am feeling very very fragile,

Thanks, x

I don't want to be unkind but this seems like a lot of unnecessary angst. Just wait for the meeting to happen organically. It may be soon. It may not happen until your child graduates or gets married. It may not happen at all.

The maintenance thing is a separate topic - and a worrying one. I really hope you can resolve it.

Also agree: two separate issues here.

Definitely go for the casual meet/drop off.

Why is he trying to reduce maintenance payments? He must have given you some kind of reason.