Is this comment "flirting"? (Single woman to married man)

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I am terribly paranoid about this kind of thing, having been cheated on previously by my first H.

We were at a party last weekend, and various neighbours were there. A single woman, who lives very close to us, started up a conversation with my DH, which went on for some time. One of the comments she said to him was "Ooh, you're sooo Big". Now, for context, he certainly is (6 ft 3 and 50 inch chest), but I found that to be really flirty. I don't know what else was said, this was the only bit I heard.

DH thinks I am being ridiculous. Would anyone else think this was flirty, or am I being a complete nut?

I ended up somewhat spoiling the night, as whilst I didn't say anything at the party, I did bring it up when we got home, by saying that I thought she was flirting with him, and the night ended up on a sour note, and now I feel like a Douche.

I'd say that's like a bloke saying......ooooo your boobs are big

Eh, no it's a bloke saying, oh you're very small/tall whatever.

And as for it insinuates his penis lol, what are you on? The guys huge. My friends son is huge, I saw him recently and said " Jesus, you're huge". I can assure you I wasn't flirting with some six foot five seventeen year old I've known since he was born.

You are all right. Gaah, I'm such an idiot!

It’s flirty in a Sex in the City kind of way, which is very flirty and a double entendre.

bluntness that's not the same though, he is a child at 17. This is a very pretty single neighbour, who spent ages chatting to my DH at a party, and who commented on his looks.

Op, is it the fact she is pretty and single that bothers you?

Either you trust him or you don't. Because ultimately you can't stop other people flirting.

And if he says she wasn't, why do you not believe him? Is his view not important? Or do you feel he is lying?

Whichever way you cut it, your reaction isn't positive.

And ignore the people saying she was flirting. They were not there and they don't know. The only people who know are her and your partner.

So it's either you trust him or you don't.

Thank you bluntness you are right. I always like your posts on here. Thank you. x

is a very pretty single neighbour,

It isn't her fault she's pretty and it may or may not be her choice to be single. Assuming pretty, single women are after your husband is really offensive. I'm single, in my early 30s, reasonably pretty and it's really shitty that other women assume I'd shag a married man based purely on that. If she was ugly, married and old would you have minded?

Op, thanks ...

If she was ugly, married and old would you have minded?

Doh. Of course it makes a difference!! How naive to think differently!!

Fwiw, I am very attractive. Petite, blonde, big tits, get hit on all the time. But after my first H cheating on me, my confidence is pure shite.

Cheating on me with 10 different women, I should say, and I had no clue .

You say you get hit on all the time OP. Would it not get to you if your DH was getting arsey with you over the actions of other men, assuming you don’t encourage them?
Bluntness has summed it all up.. you either trust him or you don’t.

In your own words, your DH didn't do anything you were unhappy with. Surely that's all that should matter?

You say you get hit on a lot. Is it not the same? At the end of the day, you cannot control what other people do or say, you either trust your DH to react respectfully to you or you don't. I am assuming you aren't interested in the men that hit on you?

For what it's worth, I think the comment 'your huge' could be flirty or not at all depending on the context and setting. I've said it to my friend I'd not seen in a while who'd been hitting the gym...'bloody hell you're massive now!'. I'm not in the slightest interested in him like that! However, I can see how in another setting it could be meant/seen in a flirtatious manner.

I do understand how difficult it is to trust when you've been damaged before OP. It isn't always as easy as just saying trust him or don't but you do need to work on these issues rather than allowing them to come in between you and your DP.

I would call it embarrassing thirst over flirting....How cringey