Concerned about a male friend but...

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Hiya,

I posted regarding my male friend about 3 months ago. He is a former colleague, who I have met up with occasionally for coffee and chat. I have advised him re tricky work situations.
To cut it short. A few weird messages from him when we were due to meet up as his wife had decided to come along. I posted about this at the time.
I have backed off massively and not had much contact. But he has recently had a family bereavement which has hit him hard. He has sent me a few messages along the lines of 'I have nothing left' which are worrying. Then long periods of no responses when I query if he is ok?

I am worried about his mental health but am feeling a bit mixed up at the same time about getting involved too deeply, He has a wife! but not many friends to call on at this very difficult time. I have been on the end of whatsapp cheating (as he knows) and am not keen to have a muddied relationship with someone. What would you all do?

Thanks in advance

I would contact his wife and say you're worried about him but don't feel it's your place to get too involved.

I haven’t read your prior thread. But I’m a bit confused, are you romantically interested? You say he’s an old work friend and that you discuss work issues but keep mentioning his wife, why is his wife such a big part of this if you’re only friends?

Unless you’re having an emotional affair or something I can’t see why his relationship status means you can’t support him as a friend, I certainly wouldn’t be backing off from a friend saying ‘I have nothing left’, I’d be there by their side giving them emotional support.

I guess there’s more than meets the eye you’re missing here cos otherwise you’re not making much sense.

I would do what @musti said