Ex contacted me after 15 years?!

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Basically he was my first everything, my first boyfriend and love. It was a childish relationship and lasted 2 years. Throughout the years he would sometimes message me being flirty or sexual and I would ignore. I haven’t spoken to him for years and yesterday he messaged to say he had an awful dream about me and wanted to check if I was okay.
I was polite and replied saying I’m good! And his reply was ‘must still care about you hey’ to which I ignored!
I then get another message asking how life is so at this point I block him.
I have a partner and a child and I have been completely open with my partner and showed him the messages and explained I blocked him.
we both just find it so strange as to why he would contact me?! Has anyone had this happened to them?

Yep, me, this morning

After 30 years.

I did think he was dead, not sure how I feel knowing he isn’t.

Blocked, then scoured my FB friends to see who the friend of a mutual acquaintance was that allowed him to find me. And blocked them. my FB is locked down bloody tight. And now it is tighter.

Yes, and it generally happens when they're feeling lonely, bored, horny ... or a mixture of all 3!
He was living in the past, and you probably reminded him of better times. The dream thing was just an excuse to get in touch, and you have done the right thing by not engaging with his nonsense.
Things are always best left in the past for a reason.

I sometimes check in on a few of my more meaningful Exes.
Not because I want them back or anything, but more because they used to be people I cared about. And just because we didn’t work out as a couple - they became more like long ago friends. Also - there is a bit curiosity too - how their lives turned out, etc.
Blocking in a case like this seems like an extreme reaction, like if there was some unfinished or lingering business.... and - after 15, or 30 years it’s strange to me.
Why not just say - I am great, happy with my H, partner, on my own; kids, etc. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The way me and my partner are it’s respect for the other person. I respect my partner and i don’t need any sort of contact with an ex. It’s all done to respect in my opinion

I had a FB friend request years ago from an ex. I had no idea what he wanted, so I ignored him. Within days, his status had gone from single to ‘in a relationship ‘. Dunno if he was looking for a last fling, but I just blocked, I wasn’t remotely interested. Have you blocked him, OP?

Yes I’ve blocked him I was polite to him but I don’t want to engage in general chit chat

Yeah I’m good friends with my ex/first love. Was with him, lived together etc ten years but it didn’t end too well and we went Nc for years. He got in touch randomly and we formed a friendship. My OH is fine with it. Neither of us want it to be anything, for us it just seemed silly not to be friendly after so many years. We were kids when we were together. My OH and my ex get on well, my kids like him. There’s nothing weird about it. I’d find it weirder if I felt obliged to block immediately to keep the current OH happy.

I have one ex I would block instantly if he contacted me. He did the whole "poke" thing on FB years ago but I ignored. I have two other exes who I get on well with as friends and regularly chat shit to on WhatsApp or Messenger. Just jokey stuff as we share a sense of humour.

I don't think I could swear in court that neither of them occasionally border on inappropriate but it's just the usual jokes it was years ago. DH is aware. I miss having male friends but had to distance myself when I got together with DH as I didn't have many who there wasn't some sort of history with. Sad really.

Yep, happened here too. Ex contacted me after 13 years, through his ex wife. I told him I was happy, planning to get remarried, that we were trying for a baby and... Then came the crazy "I've always wanted you, it's always been you."

Instant block and showed my partner. He was OK with it because my instant reaction was to totally reject the ex.

My ex contacted me out of the blue after 30 years. We will have been married 14 years in May this year so it's not always a bad thing.

Ah that old chestnut. He's looking for fuck, that is all. I wouldn't engage with him.

He's just been dumped. You did the right thing.