Is this harassment?

[Sparrowlegs248]

Repeated, lengthy, contact by text. I mean pages and pages of it. No response from me. I've asked for it to stop . Several times. It's not threatening but it puts me on edge, upsets me. It makes me anxious and distressed.

It's not threatening.

Yes, I’d say harassment if it’s continuing when you’ve requested it to stop. Is there an underlying reason why you can’t block this person?

Father of my small children. Husband actually but separated.

It's relentless.

Yes. Do you have a solicitor?

Change your phone number

No I don't have a solicitor, yet. I will though by the end of the week. I can't just change my number. We have 2 small children which he takes for a day each week so needs to be able to contact me if necessary.

Could you get a phone specifically for contact? And then only check it when necessary (perhaps day before and when he has them). You shouldn’t HAVE to but sometimes practical approaches will help when reasoning won’t

notta I’d ask some one to filter his contact or be an intermediary.

I’d warn him of this.

‘I will not be reading these lengthy emails any more as they give me anxiety. I will be asking xxxx to read them first to see if there is anything of importance regarding the children’

You can stop this

Get another phone/sim card, move all your contacts to a new number, and keep the other one just for him. Only check it every couple of days or so, have it switched off the rest of the time and switched on for when he has the dc with him.

I've thought about that. I told him it was harrassment earlier. He doesn't see anything wrong with the content. But that's not the point really I don't think.

Thanks mother we're having a conversation later. I'll see if it has any effect.

Don't tell him it's giving you anxiety, he'll probably love that! Just tell him to stop. You will not be engaging in his attempts to wind you up. You will report him to the police if he continues. And if he continues all contact about dc will have to go through a third party.

Look up grey rock technique.

Thanks , I'll look it up. He absoluty denies any control, abuse, manipulation. Anything.