Hello everyone,
My (now ex) fiancé and I ended our relationship yesterday. It was a difficult decision and although I feel like it was the correct one, I was still missing him and feeling upset. The last few months have been difficult - he is quite emotionally unstable and would say a hurtful thing one minute then a couple of hours later would realise he said it in the wrong way and would apologise, and this was having a couple of times each week. I have also found him unsupportive whilst I have been feeling stressed with a massive work load at work and uni and then just finding out that maybe we aren’t as compatible as I first thought. After a week of having some space I decided it was the best decision to end things. He was very upset and begged and pleaded with me to stay with him, promising that he would stop playing with my mind with his up and down emotions. He has made these promises before and after all the hurt I do not trust him anymore and feel like we can’t stay together. We spoke on the phone this evening to discuss cancelling the wedding plans and he again pleaded with me to reconsider and at least think about staying together. However, half an hour after that phone call ended he said he’s decided that actually we don’t work and he doesn’t want me anymore, thinks I have no understanding of him and that I should be supportive of him and as I’m not then he doesn’t want to be with me (he also mentioned he wants a dog and I don’t and it’s not something he’s willing to compromise on). I am feeling very hurt and confused right now. I still have feelings for him and care about him and tried to end the relationship in the kindest way I could but he was very hurtful and blunt with his sudden change of mind. I have no also seen that he has blocked me on Facebook and I feel so hurt that he has suddenly changed. I have tried to support him the whole way through our relationship and have given so much to him emotionally but feel like after his sudden realisation just 30 minutes after asking me to reconsider he has shoved me aside and shown no thought or consideration for my feelings. It confirms his emotional instability but it still hurts so much that he could act in such an irrational way over this. Feels like a huge slap in the face