Marriage problems

[weedee35]

Hi I’m looking for advice, my daughter who is 11 is starting at a learning centre instead of going to a main stream school. My husband blames me apparently is my fault because I took her to get the MMR jag. I completely devastated that he blames me, my daughter has other medical problems to GDD and CVI.

He really blames you how ridiculous? Surely it was a joint decision and anyway hes the parent as well. Did he voice his concerns at the time?I suspect not!
Are there other issues too?

He’s an idiot if he believes a vaccination gave your child learning difficulties

He’s an idiot.

You're better off divorced if he's dumb enough to believe vaccination causes learning issues. It's not your fault and you deserve to have someone support you and your daughter, not tear you down because he doesn't see her as perfect. She's perfect and he's an ass.

If I’m totally honest I’ve not loved him in years in fact I don’t even like him anymore, we can’t even have a conversation about anything and it ends up In argument. The problem is all of our money goes into a joint account if it didn’t I would of taken my kids years ago and left. Me and the kids are happier when he’s not here, he thinks is brilliant when he picks our daughter up one day week from school and I’m breaking my neck to do the drop off and pick up the other four days a week.

Don't stay because of the financial arrangements. Do you have the ability to get a single bank account? If you set it up now you can change your wages to it quickly if you want to leave. I stayed too many years because of my financial tangle and I shouldn't have. I didn't deserve staying just because I couldn't afford to leave.

You sound like you've already decided you want a divorce so my best advice is to start positioning yourself before you tell him you are going to file papers.