Does anyone live with their ex?

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Due to finances/DC? Does it work?

I did for 11 months. It was awful. I instigated the break up and we agreed to cohabit respectfully (ie not do anything that would make the other uncomfortable) as our house was in negative equity and we couldn’t afford to sell or buy the other out. He decided not to follow this and just did as he pleased, many strange women in my home was not pleasant.

Does under the patio count?

Easter ha! 😂

That sounds horrible Littlegoth, I have instigated it too. We have separated previously but I am in a worse financial position now. The feeling of wanting to separate is mutual. We have run our course.

I would be respectful (no choice as will be sharing a room with the DCs and besides which I'm a) not interested in dating and b) would never allow anyone I met to meet my DCs in this situation). I believe he would act similarly. It's just a bit depressing, I don't want to confuse the DCs and I don't want to have to pretend to the friends people we know but it doesn't feel workable anymore. Too much water under the bridge.

It would take me around a year to save up for a deposit and first month's rent for him for a flat (we rent, currently in a 2 bed house) and then there is the limbo/lack of money while I navigate tax/universal credit/housing benefit etc so ideally I need to save up for that too.

I'm hoping we can become friends. We separated before for about 6 months but my work/financial situation was better then. I was so much happier. I can't stay in this marriage and remain miserable. It's affecting the way I parent my DCs. I know it won't be easy to be under the same roof but I'm hoping without the added pressure of attempting (and being at a loss as to how) to save a crumbling marriage we all might be happier somehow.

I just know thigs can't go on like this.

I do when I it's my weekends with the children, Just cant afford any where big enough to rent.
The London rents are ridiculous , over a £1000 pm for just a 2 bed. plus bills.
its not great and feel like your not free, but is what it is, the only option available.

I did for a few months and it was awful. It wasn't a very nice breakup and ex used to just go AWOL for weekends when he felt like it and was really disrespectful towards me. I was waiting for him to leave, he refused so I ended up leaving. Its a lot better now.