Trying so hard to get over it.

[Layza101]

Me and ex broke up a year ago, he kept me on a string for most of this year. Started to feel a lot better the last few months.
He now has a GF and has introduced our 2DC to her and her kids.
It was heart breaking as they spent the day at her house, but the kids had a great time.
I didn't think of what they were doing and was glad I had no part of it, as I was feeling happy, got a distinction on my essay and life was starting to look good.
However.....this seems so stupid saying it, but his GF son is near enough the same age as mine and his dad (my ex) gave our son his playstation name and now they play together and talk and it's really knocked me down, as I feel like I'm being suffocated with it and it's in my face. I know it's another friend for my son, and I'd never say anything to him as he's innocent in all this, but now I feel like I've taken a million steps back been a bit upset the last few days.
It's hard to see that he's moved on and he must be so happy our kids get on, but I feel stuck.
I feel sorry for his GF a bit, as he used to call me horrible names and get angry very quickly and would happily let me do everything, so I'm pretty sure it will be the same for her after a few years.

I don't even know what I'm asking for, it just feels good to write it down and someone to give me a few wise words.

I understand your feelings Layza. My DC are young adults and have not (yet) met exH new GF (who he left me for). They know about her but there is no "need" to meet i.e. no childcare issues and I think exH is waiting for the dust to settle before introducing her to friends/DC.

But exH openly talks about GF and their plans with our friends and it feels like I am being stabbed if they tell me anything - sometimes its inadvertent, a passing comment and sometimes they are telling me negative things he has said about her/their relationship (I think they think it is helping but it is not). I've thought about asking them not to mention it but I don't want them feeling awkward and not relaxed in my company. I am dreading them all socialising together - even though I know our marriage was over and becoming toxic.

I think it is easier to lock out the hurt/pain/sadness whatever when you don't need to think about the ex. Anything that makes you think about it is very difficult - hence I think this is why you feel like this with your DS. It makes your thoughts go to him/GF/new set up whatever and it hurts like hell.

Your focus needs to be that your DC are happy and still having a good (hopefully) relationship with their father. As hard as it is at the moment, it WILL get better (I am already feeling better) and putting them first and maintaining good relationships will pay off 1 million percent once you get over this. Good luck.

I get it. It upset me when ds kept talking about exhs new partners son and what they had done together and added home to games he was playing at my house.

I just kept reminding myself that it's good for my son that they get on. I am ok with now. Took a while, but it's all good now.

Thank you both for sharing your stories. It still feels so fresh. He introduced the children only after 2 months of dating her, which I said I though was too soon, but I dictate what he does, as they are his children too.
We do still get on and I'm still close to his mum, and she's told me he's lost something which was so good, and I'll find someone who will treat me right and he will regret it one day.
I can't wait for the day when I'm able to say, I'm over you.

*can't dictate, sorry typo

It's ok. Exh met someone, they rented a house together for her 2 kids and my 2 kids, within 12 weeks.

And honestly, you get past it.

Frenchmontana 12 weeks!! I'm glad you're past it now