Found messages on Kik!

[drecmore]

Is there anyone to talk to?
I just found lots of Kik messages on my partners phone - the worst of the kind... Its clear that have that he fucks around as well.
I think adrenaline kicked in and I can't sleep!!! Thought it would be good to catch a few hours before I will have to deal with it.

Sorry to hear this.

Can you screenshot (or take photos with your own phone - turn off shutter noise!) the messages so that when he starts minimising and saying "it was just fantasy" you can remind yourself that he's bullshitting?

I'd do some more digging first so he can't deny it! X

Yes, take pics of everything you find. No coming back from this really. Ducks in a row and ltb. Sorry about this op, some men are just dogs.

I took some photos. I've seen everything I needed to see...
How am I gonna face it in few hours I don't know.

How are you, @drecmore?

Hi, not quite sure... bit all over the place. I confronted him in the morning. Of course at first he pretended he doesn't know what I am talking about, wanted to see the photo I took (to check how much I know) then try to minimise this. It's not real etc. I think I even had a little laugh at this pathetic excuse!!! Then he came upstairs and admitted it was actually quite bad (it's happening at least 4 years, 4 bloody years) and apologised me - like it's solving the issue. I'm furious and really hate him at the moment! Had a few cries, but I'm having kids for sleepover soon so need to keep straight face.

I asked him to leave for few days, but he refused so is still one the house, which doesn't help.

Is the house rented or owned?
In your name, his or both?
Do you have kids?

I take it you aren’t married?

Not married, both names on the mortgaged house, one child.
Just noticed he blurred all the photo I took. My phone is connected with iPad. Bastard!!! You can't really read what is written now! Luckily I send this earlier to my email.
I can not believe it, what a cheek!!!

I am sorry that this has happened to you op you and your DC deserve much better than that. Please stand your ground if he tries to change your mind.
Can you call his parents and ask them to take him in i.e ask them to come and remove him from the house?

You must be devastated. He feels entitled to betray you and make a fool of you.

You can’t make him leave, but you can cease providing him with domestic services such as washing his clothes, ironing, packing his lunch, running his errands, etc.

This would be it for me. I would make an exit plan. You also need an STI test.

I am very sorry that you are going through this.

@drecmore, how are you?

Hi Thank you MsDogslady. Im OK. I dont feel nothing.
Had the conversation, he sort of admitted to what he didn't have a choice. I asked to full view of all his bank and cc card statement, he agreed, but tbh I can't be bothered to go through it.
He's sorry, it's only words bla bla bla....
he wants to "work" on the relationship bla bla bla...
Yesterday felt quite positive, thought maybe we manage to overcome this, but today I don't feel anything.... every time I look at the messages it reminds me of the loser he is...