Divorce asset split

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Does anyone have recent experience of divorce asset split? . I’m going for 65/35 from a combined pot of £2.1 million . Plus maintenance. I have 4 kids and an autoimmune disease -haven’t worked since kids as moved overseas a lot following his careeer. Also put £300 k into our first house - he didn’t , but paid mortgage. 50 percent pensions. He is an alcoholic - now recovering- but highly likely to resurface

My understanding is that you can aim for what you want, but don't expect to get it.

If you offer 65/35 I'd expect to get beaten down to 60/40.

If you have a long term health condition then he could argue that you couldn't hold down a full time job anyway so your "career sacrifice" is effectively meaningless.

How old are the DC? Are you back in the UK now?

It's not clear to me why you should get most of the assets, and I suspect his solicitor will have the same question.

Presumably because she'll have four children for the majority of the time if he's an alcoholic?

Wouldn't the maintenance cover the custody related expenses?

What is the right & fair thing to do will be different in every situation. You need legal advice - money well spent in a case with large assets.

Rememver that it will be cheaper, less stressful & damaging to everyone if you can negotiate a settlement. Going to court leaves it all in the judge's hands & costs a lot in fees

Not quite sure why you would be entitled to any more than 50:50 split. Why are you suggesting that?

Child maintenance will cover the children's expenses calculated on the basis of how many days they are with you. If capable of working you will be expected to do so rather than rely on spousal maintenance.

I have several friends who divorced with assets of a similar value. I don't see you getting more than 50/50. Where women win a higher % it is usually because they need the lion's share in order to house and support themselves. I suspect you will get 50% assets plus spousal maintenance if he remains a very high earner.