DV history and new gf

[whatwouldyoudoifyouknew]

NC for this

There was a long history of dv during and after my marriage. Sexual abuse, rape, physical, emotional and financial abuse. I am now divorced and my exH is with a new partner.

I reported everything to the police a few months ago but they decided that there was not enough chance of securing a conviction so didn't pursue it beyond doing a video interview with me.

We have 2 children together who spend eow with my exH and his partner.

They have reported lots of rows and threats to break up but have recently disclosed their dad throwing something at his partner because she disagreed with him on something he wanted to do.

What would you do? Anything? Nothing? None of my business? Social services are aware of previous issues but they live in a different area to me and the children.

Contact is court ordered.

Can you report that this was witnessed by your children? SS would be interested, I think.

How old are your children?

12 and 10.
The argument was over something we used to argue about and he was very abusive with me so I can just imagine.
It's quite toxic in general from the sounds of it with the way they treat each other .

Bumping as not sure if silly to report or sensible

I'd report it in a heartbeat. Your kids are emotional sponges at this age, they have been through this already and you were there to protect them. You are not able tknprotect them in person now but you are by speaking to SS. You are not interfering. You are being a good mum.

I agree completely with Bellends. You need to report it to protect your children.

Whatwouldyoudo, think about it. What are your children learning when they witness this?

They see that if aomeone disagrees with their dad then he throws stuff at them. If they themselves disagree with their dad then they risk him throwing something at them. How is that likely to affect them?

Yes, love, ring SS.

Thank you, I will do. They know he was abusive to me. I applied for a non-molestation order after he'd left but he accepted an undertaking instead. Kept him away for a year and I learnt to grey rock block. His family all think I'm psycho and his partner has supported him in his coercive control of me. He's stopped now. Maybe he's concentrating on her now we are finally divorced.

I might inform school rather than go direct to SS. The pastoral tutor is excellent and aware of previous issues.

Just to update: I spoke with SS and they say they aren't concerned about DV They've looked into it and no records of any DV. Just because it's not been reported doesn't mean it's not happening and I'm reporting it! Ffs they really are shit.
Thanks to all for your advice