My gf and mother of our 2 kids suddenly said last June that she had changed and no longer loved me. It was a couple of days before our 13 year anniversary. She is 31 and I am 43. She said she had changed and wanted more out of life. She had never wanted tattoos or go on a plane but now did. I have no tattoos and I dont fly so we had that in common from the start of the relationship. She said she had settled down too young. She was 17 when i met her, I was 28. Our kids are 6 and 9. I was distraught. Everyone was shocked. She is quite a bubbly person whereas I am quiet and shy, until I get to know people. I had nowhere to go. Literally. We dont have a lot of money and my job had come to an end. Was in debt so agreed I would stay until out of debt. Approx 6 months maybe. However our landlord then evicted us and to move we ended up in more debt. This was in October. Done the place out with new carpets, blinds , etc as I was hoping to show her that I cared. Then Xmas came and more debt. We agreed shortly after the split than we would keep having sex. Maybe one/twice fortnight. She pinky promised it (her way of keeping a promise). This was fine until 6 weeks ago when she suddenly changed her mind. Said it wasnt right etc. Said she had just been doing it for my benefit. Now no sex. We still share the same bed. Shortly after the split I found out she was messaging a guy, read the messages and only slagging me off & some innuendos. Then my DD noticed that her password on her phone as changed but denied it. She showed me it was the same but the line pattern was different. She denied it. Said it was the same. Made me think I was in the wrong. She came clean a few hours later. Damage was done tho. Trust we had all these years was gone. Since then there was another 2 guys she messaged but when she showed her phone, the messages were deleted. Said it was all innocent. She sits most evenings on her phone in the same room as me. I found out shes messaging a guy whose married (apparently) but I overheard her saying to her mum that she had messaged a guy all day and was quite cheery about it. So is she lying? Same time we made the 1st pinky promise we all done one for her staying single till I move out. She will not show me her phone saying its none of my business. I am approx £7000 in debt and no job. Not in the right mind set to at the moment. Thinking that she could get with someone while Im in work. My dad before he met my mum, had had that happen to him. I have no friends or family, we have moved several areas and as I drive, I take her to her family and friends. We never argued in the 13 years. I do loads around the house as I am house proud so am pulling my weight. She looks back over the relationship now as says I was controlling. She agreed with a lot of things at the time just to make me happy. She felt that she couldnt go out when invited as she felt bad that I was stuck at home. A lot of the time tho it was down to money or short notice. She also said she had been unhappy for 18 months. I had been unemployed for years and when I did start work she found she did not miss me and dreaded me coming home. All changed now from what she said last June. She has a lot of friends who have broken relationships, her parents split up when she was 7. She started part time work 3 weeks ago. Now when she goes its like I have empty nest syndrome. She has turned her friends and family against me as she does not care that I am hurting and lonely. I tell her she makes me feel like pooh but its turned back on me somehow. Ive lost my partner, my best friend, plus all her family and friends. Noone wants to help me. I am all alone.