How can I fall back in love with my DP?

[fauxhuman]

I am really struggling. He is a good man and a great Dad. We have been together 18 years and although there have been ups and downs it's mostly been great.
Recently I find him really annoying, I hate him being affectionate and he is obviously desperate for love and attention but I feel like I constantly feel bad as I just don't want it. I still have a sex drive as am doin it on my own most days!
The problem is I want to want him but I don't, anyone had this and it been a passing phase? We have two children and I don't want to split up but we can't live like this.

Can you go back to basics? Dating type of thing where no house/kids talk is allowed?

Really you need to have a heart to heart with him. Whenever life takes over and bonding takes a back seat me and husband pencil in some us time. Even if it's half an hour skin to skin and cuddle. But we're both on the same page with it. Your husband had no idea you're feeling detached and he'll be confused.

Yes I think that is what we need to do. We are currently having some relationship counselling which I think is making it worse

Can you think back to why you were attracted to him in the first place, OP? What things about him made your heart flutter, what things did you love him for? Are those things still there?
If he died tomorrow, would you miss him or feel liberated?
What I’m trying to get at is - are you able to salvage the relationship and rekindle the love and desire, or has it run its course and you’ve grown apart?
Only you and he can know whether life and kids have just got in the way of a basically solid love, or whether you’re only still together through habit and should separate. Counselling may help you to see which it is. Good luck, whichever way it goes.