Beer and takeaways

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Every night, and I mean every night my husband goes upstairs to our spare room where his computer is and drinks 6 to 8 cans of beer then orders a takeaway which he eats about 10 - 10.30pm.
We have rowed, I have been calm and explained how unhealthy this is but still he carries on. Sometimes he tries to placate me by saying he will stop but mostly he tries to justify it by creating some misdemeanour I am supposed to have done.
It's been 5 years of this. I am lonely, I am anxious. I would like to show him your responses to this post.
Please note, I am not in a position to leave for various reasons although there are no children involved except his teenage daughter who stays EOW.
Please could I have your thoughts on whether his lifestyle would be acceptable to you and how you would react if you were me.
Sorry that was long. Thanks for reading if you got to the end.

He sounds like a complete knon
Leave him, you'll be much happier

*knob!

Start bringing a guy back at the weekend. That might make him realise.

On a more respectable level. I wouldn't put up with that. Do you know what he does on the computer???

MashedSpud beat me to it. Not wanting to be seen eating and drinking seems like some form of disordered eating to me. Binge eaters often want to eat in secrecy/privacy. I haven’t heard of anything quite like this before though.

It’s up to you if you want to split over it. Challenge your own conviction that you can’t leave. You have no dependants which is usually what holds people back. If I was you and wanted to leave I’d put all my energy into exploring ways to increase my income and get legal advice re your stake in the house. Good luck!

Not wanting to be seen eating can also be a sign of anxiety disorder, or obsessive compulsive disorder.

If he is not generally happy he could be trying to control his life with a strict routine.

First step, I'd tell him that he must stop shouting at you and sending you away. If he wants to eat in private, he can do it in his room or the kitchen.

I know people are often quick to ask re autism, but as an autistic person myself, he does sound like he could be (doesn't give him any excuse to be an arse though!)

You are worth so much more than this. I think you know that. So traet yourself with the respect you deserve.

On a different note: ne nevers eats a meal with his teenage daughter either then presumably? What a dad.

Don't show him this thread.
Get legal advice and work our how you can get him out.

What is he doing online?
How many hours is he in this room?