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I miss her.

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MummyStruggles · 14/03/2019 15:17

I don't know if this is the right place to post this because it's about a friendship but here goes...

A close friend fell out with me on NYE 2017, so over a year ago now. We were friends for more than 12 years and she was my bridesmaid in August 2017. I miss her and I think about her almost every day.

Like most arguments, it was over something quite silly, initially but then it escalated and she said some things, personal things about me, that had quite clearly been on her mind for a good while beforehand.

I wish she was still in my life now but if I think about contacting her, I can't bring myself to do it. She's fallen out with me once before this, about 4 years into our friendship over something equally as pathetic (in my opinion) so, naturally, I am reluctant to put myself out there again to potentially be let down again.

It's worth mentioning that about 6 months after we fell out, I was having regular dreams where she appeared, for whatever reason and I ended up contacting her to see if she was okay, maybe read too much into the dreams. She did reply at the time that she was "surprised" to hear from me and that, yes, she was fine. I thought that maybe she would see this as a bit of an olive branch from me and spark a conversation but she didn't and I've heard nothing from her since.

WWYD in my situation? It's quite clear that she probably doesn't think about me or miss me or else she'd get in touch wouldn't she?

OP posts:
Babyg1995 · 14/03/2019 15:22

I fell out with a long time friend over something she thought was petty it was far from petty in my eyes twice we fell out second time was for something much worse she has tried to reach out to me also wish she would just leave me alone mabey what you think is pathetic isn't to her I would Leave it.

TheBouquets · 14/03/2019 15:28

I am in a similar situation. I think someone else did the wrong thing as the original problem. After that, I had a bundle of nasty messages from people mostly not known to me. I left it for well over a year. I then sent a message about something thinking I was being kind and considerate. I got no reply. I have just left it since then.
There is not much people can do on their own. So if your friend does not respond I think you just have to accept it

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