Stuck in a rut

[Nevergotobedfangry]

Been with dp 5yrs, 2dc. I love him but a lot of the time hate him due to money worries because hes the one spending, arguements, silent treatment, accusations towards me that I'm lazy (I'm a sahm I believe I do a lot)
I was stupid, I made a call to my ex, last spoke just over 5yrs. I don't even have his number, I just remembered it as I was with him on and off for 7yrs or so. My pain point of the Call was to apologise for my bad behaviour when we was seeing each other ect. I half heartedly apologised and hung up abruptly as I was nervous - he was the one until he couldn't commit officially. Next day I built up courage to call again and explain myself ect. He told me he had bought an engagement ring for me and was so shocked when I ended it he couldn't tell me. He told me hell always be there for me blahblahblah. I do miss him, but I'm happy with my Mr and DC.
I'm confused. What would you do in my situation?

I think neither your ex nor the man you are now with are right for you.
Do not contact your ex again; he is not helping you at all and it will go nowhere. He is a mere distraction to your current problem which is your now partner.

Are you married to this man?.

On one hand you write this:-
"I love him but a lot of the time hate him due to money worries because hes the one spending, arguements, silent treatment, accusations towards me that I'm lazy (I'm a sahm I believe I do a lot) "

and at the end you write this re your H:-
"but I'm happy with my Mr and DC".

Are you really lying to your own self here in writing the above "I'm happy" comment?. It seems to be the case that you are and you should not be accepting this from your current man at all.

His silent treatment is an example of emotional abuse as is he telling you that you are lazy (you are clearly not). He is merely projecting his own self onto you; he is the lazy one here and he is abusive to boot.

Why are you with him, what are you getting out of this relationship?. What do you want to teach your children about relationships here and would you want them to have a relationship like this, no you would not. Its not good enough for you either. Do not stay with this person for the sake of your children either, they are seeing all this at first hand and pick up on all the vibes both spoken and unspoken here. They see you cowed and controlled along with how their dad acts around you all too clearly, this is no legacy to leave them.

I would have a chat with Womens Aid as they could help you here on 0808 2000 247.

Thanks for your input. When it's good its good but so rare. He said about 6pm he was leaving tonight, nearly 9pm and he still hasn't gone. Honestly I don't even care if he goes

Neither of these men are the answer.