Hi
My husband and I have been together for 16 years married for 10. Throughout this time he's always worked and is very rarely home before 9 each night, goes at 8 each morning.
I've noticed a huge change in his behaviour towards me he gets very agitated and is losing the head over small things and on 2 occasions thrown things at me.
During college exams he picked a major fight the night before the 1st exam and it would continue until the last exam finished wen he would be sorry. I had the biggest exams of my career this week and low and behold the night before he lost the head with me over not knowning the account number for the bin😏. It turned into a huge argument that ended with me in complete bits. Only then was he sorry and tge cups of tea were flowing.The stress of my exams and the hurt that he wud fight as per.
We had a terrible Christmas. Our anniversary was yesterday neither said ANYTHING I not speaking to him.
Our relationship is spent with me waiting for him to come home then he eats watches a tv show then bed. This is our life. He invited me to dinner very very rarely but that's only wen his mates are home. We eat then meet all his friends I'm always the only girl.
I do everything in the house. We have no quality time together because he wants to help his dad out every weekend and most evenings. This has always been a problem I've told him how lonely I am in our marriage he promises change and is good for a week then back to normal. The last time we meet for coffee was 3 years ago😏I'm always asking to do things but he's always buzzy. We have kids there great ages of 14, 8, and 9. He's always to tired to play with them it's heart breaking. My son waited outside the window in the cold with his football shouting in at him to please play football, it broke my heart.
No quality relationship, no quality time not from a lack of trying.
A few weeks ago he said he was taking me away for our anniversary and exam relief, I mentioned last week how I was so excited to go but he didn't remember.
Any advice