10 year anniversary coming up

[Lolly2019]

Hi all,

So me and my boyfriend have been together 10 years in a few weeks. I made a point a few months ago that I thought we should go away and celebrate but he just shoved it off and hasn’t mentioned it since. I just feel like he doesn’t care!
For years all of our friends and family keep asking when are we doing go get married and I just make up a joke and laugh it off but deep down I feel like he should of asked by now. I am very anti women proposing, something I wouldn’t do.
Even around us all of our friends are getting married and having babies and this just doesn’t seem to inspire him.

I’ve had three miscarriages and just feel like I’m in a really low place. I’m going to end up unmarried and childless for how long.

He can’t even use the excuse that we’re not in a good place. We own our own home, both have good jobs and are stronger in our relationship than ever.

I want him to ask me because he wants too not because I want him to.
I hope I’m not wasting my life away with someone who doesn’t want the same things as me. :(

Ok you don't want to propose, fair enough, but you could arrange a nice weekend away for your anniversary.

Could he be shoving it off because he’s already planned something? Wait and see how the day goes then make up your mind what you want going forward

It’s not that simple when he hasn’t even made an effort to book it off at work even thought I have and he knows I have. This is what I mean when I say he doesn’t care and isn’t very thoughtful.
Even for valentines on the day he asked me if I wanted to go out! I was just like are you serious!! No chance of getting anywhere now !

I hope I’m not wasting my life away with someone who doesn’t want the same things as me

Please tell me that you have discussed how important it is that you get married at some point over the 10 years?

Why is it that some women simply refuse to take a lead in a relationship in 2019? Why are you anti a woman proposing? Normally when asked that, an OP will say "they're old fashioned about traditions" yet they've by that time got kids (and you have at least been trying for kids).

I really don’t think his that thoughtful, pulse his made arrangements with his mom to sort some stuff out at her house :(

This is what I mean when I say he doesn’t care and isn’t very thoughtful

If this is the case, why have you stayed with him for 10 years?? Sorry, don't get it. Unless he's changed for some reason, presumably this is who he is. Why would you expect him to change now?