Not sure where to start! I'll try and be brief. DH has always been known as 'a drinker', but things have escalated to the point that he is drinking at least 2 bottles of wine most nights, usually with a couple of other drinks thrown in also for good measure. This is causing strain on our relationship and I am also worried about the damage it will do to our DC as well. He is not violent and most of the time he does not appear even slightly drunk! However, his personality does change. He has the need to be right all the time and now I just ignore or give in to what ever he is saying to stop 'a debate'. He regularly tells me that I contribute nothing to our relationship and all the problems we have are my fault. Our relationship in general is not great and has been deteriorating rapidly over the last 2-3 years. 11 years ago, when our youngest child was 6 mths old, I found out he had run up a debt of £40k playing fruit machines. He had therapy and we worked hard to try and save the marriage, but if I am absolutely honest, I don't think it ever truly recovered. Last year, I discovered that he had run up debts of £25k on credit cards - not sure what on! Since then his drinking has spiralled and we are at the point where he is barely even speaking to me!!!
Do I involve his family for support? Or do I just leave him to it? I really don't know what to do for the best.