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My own fault

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Spudthepug · 13/03/2019 19:35

So last year, me and my ex planned a baby! Found out that she was pregnant I was over the moon! Until in December I found out she booked in for an abortion whilst I worked away! A heated argument ended up in both of us being physical and I grabbbed her by the throat! Something I’m not proud of may I add.

Anyway I was arrested and my bail conditions were not to contact her! She contacted me a few days later and we see each other a few times! I was then in court and a restraining order was put in place for me not to contact her or go to her address! But we was already in contact and we had already been at the address.

I’m now in a position that I no longer want to see her for various reason but I’m now worried about that she could tell the police that we have had contact because she is angry that I no longer want to see her!
What do I do approach the police myself and admit the restraining order has been breached? Or sit and wait to see if they come knocking?

OP posts:
Sarah22xx · 13/03/2019 19:38

Harsh as it sounds but it's a good job a baby wasn't brought into this mess.

Spudthepug · 13/03/2019 21:05

It really wasn’t a mess up until this day

OP posts:
Wellit · 13/03/2019 21:22

Do you have any proof that she invited you and contacted you first?

Spudthepug · 13/03/2019 22:03

Yes I’ve kept everything but she doesn’t have the restraining order I do

OP posts:
C0untDucku1a · 13/03/2019 22:09

What are you doing about your anger issues now?

Needsomebottle · 13/03/2019 22:25

If you tell the police it doesn't matter that she contacted you first, you still breached your restraining order by responding. The point at which you should have contacted the police was when she got in touch. Whether you tell them now or wait and see if she tells them if you stop all contact, the result is the same. So I'd chance it with stopping contact and see if she does report you.

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