9 year age gap?

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Am I being stupid to consider it?

I’m a mature student, have been partnered with another student for a project. We get on really well, I enjoy his company and he’s said he enjoys mine. We’re going out tomorrow night for a drink (on a date).

He’s 24, I’m 32.

He’s quite mature so I thought he was a few years older and I look young for my age so he thought I was younger.

Now it’s the night before I’m really starting to second guess myself about the age gap. Am I kidding myself it could ever work? Should I cancel?!

It's not a significant gap, really, especially when the younger party is no longer a teenager. I know several women with men who are younger. My friend's mum is 72 and her stepfather is about 65, for example - they've been together for 25 years. At Christmas I attended the wedding of a 46 year old bride whose groom was 32/33. As I type I'm thinking of loads more but you get the picture!

I was 26 when I got with my ex (she was almost 37). Neither of us wanted kids and I was always regarded as mature for my age. We split up when I was 36 and to be honest we should have split up probably four years earlier as the age gap definitely became an issue and I there is no way I would date someone more than a three or four years older/younger now.

Thanks all. Sandy he’s talked about relationships before and what he wants, it sounds like he’s looking for something serious - fully aware that might not be with me though.

Shatners thanks for sharing your experience, worth bearing in mind what may change in the future. Think I’ll see how things go for a bit and if they seem to be progressing have a talk with him about what he wants/any concerns.

we met when dh was 23 and I was 33, nearly 25 years later (married 19) he is still the most handsome man on the planet and frankly I think he helps me to have a younger outlook than my girlfriends with older dh seem to have (could be that I'm very immature though )