What will happen now? Abusive ex and out DC

[Worriedmum32]

I need to remain as vague as possible incase ex finds this and it worsens our situation.

We have been divorced a while due to long term emotional abuse, never physically laying a hand but mentally and financially wearing me down.

Until now I thought although he was a really good father but DC2 has started to let slip that once I have dropped them off he isn't very attentive. When I raised this with him he accused me of posioning the children. The argument ended in him making threats to my safety and to himself so I asked him not to contact me and have changed my number. The school know and are in agreement that he shouldn't be around them, he doesn't seem to be fighting for them.

What do I do now? Just hope he doesn't contact me? Contact a lawyer myself?? I have a very low paid job so worrying about costs when he doesn't seem to be actually asking for access anyway?

If you feel it is not safe for him to have the children you can stop his contact. And advised him to go to court. He has parental responsibilities. Not rights. Is there a court order already in place?

I would keep any notes you have and include school for support for the children.

Seek free legal advice so that you are prepared. Also have a google for children's law advice. They can advise you over the phone.

Depending on the age of the children they can be asked their opinion of the situation. And this can be taken into account.

If he is not trying to see them then cant see what you think you need to do? just be prepared that he may want to at some point.