AIBU to feel hurt by this friend?

[Longtimela]

I have a friend that tells me it is too far to visit me and we often meet half way if we meet.

I have been to her place often. She tells me this is convenient as my brother lives nearby so I can see him too. While that is true, I have been to see her a lot without seeing my brother, who is often not available anyway!

She came to visit me at my new house a week after moving in, before it was furnished. She’s not been back since, over 2 years later. Family have suggested she came over only to see it, and compare, as that’s what she is like, very competitive.

What bothers me is that she travels just as far to see other friends in the other direction!

Would this bother you? Am I being unfair?

Why are you friends

I think you value the friendship more than she does. If she was that bothered, she'd make the effort as you do. No, you're not BU to feel hurt, but if she doesn't want to see you as much (or travel as far) as you do, then she's not BU either. Not all friendships are equal, that doesn't necessarily mean anyone's in the wrong.

I think it depends how far 'far' is to be honest.
I go and visit my friends.
1 about 1.5 hours away
1 about 1.5 hours away
1 about 2.5 hours away.
But they return the favour and visit me often as well.
If she isn't prepared to put herself out at all then I don't think you should bother with her any more.

She's not prepared to make the same effort for you that she does for other people (probably whoever is the latest flavour of the month).

You're not being unfair its all one sided....I wouldn't bother with her, focus on your friends who make an effort to be in your life.

TBH I think I'd quietly downgrade this friendship as you appear to give it more thought than she does. Enjoy your time with her but with the caveat that she's unlikely to make you her priority.

Currently going through this with some of my friends and realising I do the majority travelling so taking a step back. It hurts though to think that your not worth taking the effort for. Protect yourself and remember you are worth more! Your not wrong to feel bothered by this!