Should I reach out to old friends or accept it's done

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I've name changed for this as it's very outing. I suffer from Borderline personality disorder after having a very violent and traumatic childhood. This has led me to be very mistrusting of others and I tend to 'over react' to perceived abandonment or betrayal.
I have let my this end two very close friendships. One last year and another in 2015. I'm now in a much better place mentally and wish I could reach out to them. The close friend last year ended because she took other people's word over mine and we got on to an argument that led to me ignoring her. I regret it now but feel too much time has passed to reach out?
The 2015 one is more complicated. This was my best friend of 15 years and she kicked me out the car in the middle of the motorway after her boyfriend and I got in to an argument because he was abusive to her. I basically told him not to speak to her like that and threatened him. She took his side. I've since found out they are now married and he is still abusive. Im thinking of contacting her if she may need me? Again has too much time passed?
Any input would be very much appreciated x

Well you've nothing to lose have you?
It's worth reaching out if that's what you want.
But understand that you may feel rejection if they don't want contact with you.
As long as you are strong enough for that then you should be OK.

Most recent one I would just send a casual message "Hi, I know we had cross words last time but I do miss our friendship. I would love to draw a line under things and just start all over." Then let her come to you if she's so inclined.

The 2015 friend I'm not so sure on. She put you out of her car on a motorway? If it was at the services then I'd be more inclined to get in touch. But if it was on the hard shoulder then she can go to hell!

She kicked you out of the car when you were on the motorway because you stood up for her? And just left you stranded by the side of the motorway?!
I can't see why you would want to be friends - I don't think I would. Yes you're obviously a decent person who is worried about the abuse and wants to provide support but even so, that was a really crap way to treat someone who was obviously trying to help her. That said, I can't see the harm in trying as long as you're aware that you could be rejected. Good luck whatever you decide.

Thanks for the inputs. Yes it was on the hard shoulder! I guess I'm being more sympathetic now that I understand that there is abuse and it may have been her only way of trying to stop whatever consequences he would of given? I'm not entirely sure about rekindling that friendship tbh but do feel as though I could help her if I did.
As for the most recent friend, I think I might reach out but as you have all said I'm terrified she won't be interested.

As for the most recent friend, I think I might reach out but as you have all said I'm terrified she won't be interested
She's probably your best bet - the other might not want to reconnect because you know he's abusive. But recent one - well if you explain how you felt like you have here and why then she can make the decision. Give it a whirl.

Spoke to my friend for over an hour last night and we have cleared the air. Meeting for lunch this weekend to try and put the past 6 months behind us. Wish I would of reached out sooner! Thank you all for the encouragement.

Ah great result!

The other friend will remember you stood up for her and the memory will help her when, please God, she starts to break free.

Well done you!

That's a nice update.
Glad you've reconnected.
Have a fun lunch.