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How should I take this?

16 replies

gofigure88 · 11/03/2019 01:34

I have been seeing someone (very casually as I have a job that requires a lot of travel) for about 4-5 months.

I am away at the moment and last night we were chatting via email, I said something meant as a joke and he replied with "see, and that's why I love ya"

How would you take that? Passing comment right? Not "I love you"? ....right?

OP posts:

OddCat · 11/03/2019 01:36

I would take it as he's telling you he loves you !

everythingisbetterafteranap · 11/03/2019 01:37

That's his way of introducing that he loves you.

How do you feel?

Smotheroffive · 11/03/2019 01:38

Yep; sayin he loves ya!

How else can you take it?

Spartak · 11/03/2019 01:38

I'd take that as a affectionate passing comment.

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gofigure88 · 11/03/2019 01:40

I am extremely cynical from being hurt badly from last relationships. My gut reaction was it was a line to get into my pants!!!

OP posts:

OddCat · 11/03/2019 01:41

He's doing it in a 'testing the water ' type way.

everythingisbetterafteranap · 11/03/2019 01:42

You've been seeing him for about 5 months and he isn't in your pants yet?

Are you travelling as a nun?

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gofigure88 · 11/03/2019 01:45

Hahaha! No, but I'm very cautious and away an awful lot.

He has made it VERY clear that he wants to get in them (lol) when the opportunity arises. hence my cynicism

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everythingisbetterafteranap · 11/03/2019 01:48

Then he sounds keen and up for fun. How lovely to be wanted. Enjoy yourself. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, black and white.

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gofigure88 · 11/03/2019 01:48

Thank you PP

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Smotheroffive · 11/03/2019 01:50

I don't know why anyone would be surprised. Is it ok to get intimate with someone you haven't gotten to know yet?

Good for you OP! What's wrong with getting to know who you're getting intimate with. Keeps you a lot safer!

Smotheroffive · 11/03/2019 01:51

Like you say,you've been seeing him very casually

Aquamarine1029 · 11/03/2019 01:54

Seems to me you are wasting a lot of time burdening this relationship with experiences from your past. He is not them.

What a shame.

Smotheroffive · 11/03/2019 02:03

He will show OP if he is not them, and if hes not he'll know its worth waiting for, its not all about sex. It's about getting to know her and earning her trust and her his

sobernotjustforoctober · 11/03/2019 08:08

Yeah I agree he's saying it to test the water.

LemonTT · 11/03/2019 09:55

I back affectionate comment which you can make equally to a friend or a lover.

But ! He is keen and he likes you and he is considerate. He is also open with his feelings. So all good and of course he wants to have sex with you and will show it or say it. Nothing wrong with that as he respects your boundaries.

Your past experiences inform how you approach relationships and that is fine. They should not be attributed to other people.

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