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If a man over complimented you

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Canthearthroughmyglasses · 11/03/2019 00:05

So I have a male aquaintance who is always showering me with messages of compliments, how amazing I am and stuff on those lines. I have met him twice. He is in his fiftees and his comments are way to strong and I keep having to tell him I am not looking for a partner and still he keeps saying we should meet up and is constantly texting. When I tell him how his comments make me feel uncomfortable he says this is who he is and he means no harm. I think he is overstepping my boundaries, what would you do?

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Sadiesnakes · 11/03/2019 00:14

Why are you even giving this time? He's a male acquaintance, so surely not important in the scheme of things. Say no thanks and move on. It's harassment if he can't take no so block and ignore.

brizzlemint · 11/03/2019 00:16

I'd think he had the potential to be controlling.

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Canthearthroughmyglasses · 11/03/2019 00:20

@brizzlemint, that’s what I thought too. The reason I am giving this thought is because I have had sbusive partners and just wanted the mumsnet wisdom input here and perhaps a verification that I was not overreaching? I just find the whole thing strange.

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Anniegetyourgun · 11/03/2019 05:50

It doesn't matter what he means, you've told him you don't like it. If "this is who he is" means he's someone who tramples over other people's feelings, well, he's not the sort of person you'd want to get closer to, is he? The good news is you don't have to.

abcriskringle · 11/03/2019 05:53

Huge red flag. I'd cut contact.

Shoxfordian · 11/03/2019 06:23

Stop messaging him, block him

Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 11/03/2019 07:30

Red flags. Lack of respect for your wishes/boundaries.
Cut contact and walk away.

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Canthearthroughmyglasses · 11/03/2019 07:49

Yeah, thank you guys

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Canthearthroughmyglasses · 11/03/2019 07:55

He knows about my previous sbudive expartner and said he was only being nice as he wanted to show me that all men are like that. He is sending heart emoji on his messages now and kisses, and when I said I was uncomfortable with it and felt it was a bit too much, he basically ignored me. Anyway thanks for the advice I am going to block the dude.

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Dirtybadger · 11/03/2019 08:16

Start sending dick pics. When he Ask a you to stop explain it's who you are and you meant no harm. And so are going to ignore his wishes!

No you aren't overreacting he's ignoring your boundaries and being a creep. Cut contact.

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Canthearthroughmyglasses · 11/03/2019 08:41

😬 dick picks, that made me giggle. Have blocked him now

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Trills · 11/03/2019 08:54

Ugh.

No thank you

"said he was only being nice as he wanted to show me that all men are like that"

He's demonstrating the opposite here isn't he - he's showing that he (like your ex) does not respect a woman's boundaries.

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