Sick of his outburst's in front of DD!

[HollyLM]

So... I took my partners car to my DD's swimming lesson this morning. In walking back to the car I notice the back was all scratched and dented, so I called him immediately and said "did you know your car has scratches etc on it?"

He responded with "WHAT?! Are you fucking joking?! I knew you shouldn't have taken my Fucking car, bring it back to me now!"

Naturally, inside I'm thinking oh my god, here we go! (Let's remember I didn't do anything!)

Me and my DD arrive home, to which his two sons are there aged 13 & 15. He goes outside and responds with "FUCK SAKE!!! LOOK AT MY FUCKING CAR, YOU DON'T RESPECT ANYTHING OF MINE!)

I then try say hang on a minute, this wasn't me? I called you to say this was on your car! He then walks upstairs and we all suddenly hear him LITERALLY SCREAM....FOR FUCK SAKE!!!!!! I go up and he's screaming at me saying I don't fucking care what you say or what you do, but you can pay for it to get fixed!! I try and explain it wasn't me and that actually when we all went out for dinner the night before he parked where he shouldn't have and even a taxi driver said it was risky parking there etc! but I get told To fuck off!

The main point is... he shouldn't act like that should he in front of children?!

This was 10am this morning, we haven't spoken since!

You need to leave.

Protect your daughter. Get this creep out of your life.

He shouldn’t act like that in front of anyone. He needs to go. Reconsider your circumstances once’s he’s sought treatment.

OP, you are letting your DD down by exposing her to this excuse for a man. His sons have probably seen various relationships fail due to their father's behaviour, are you staying for their sake?

HollyLM

..... what is wrong with me?!!!

You’re asking yourself the wrong question, which should be what’s wrong with him. You’ve been intimidated and subdued by this person so are blaming yourself. Stop. You need to summon strength to get out of the situation before it deteriorates, which it will. You must protect your daughter.

You need freedom programme and fast.

If you stay, your DD will grow up thinking this is what a 'normal' relationship looks like and will probably repeat the cycle.

Please have enough respect for yourself and for her to leave.

OP please Google the Freedom Programme in your local area (delete your history afterwards) or contact Women's Aid.

He is abusive, you and your child deserve better.

Also, there is nothing wrong with you. You're conditioned to believe him, it's part of being abused. Not your fault and it can get better I promise.

Leave him, he's a knob

OP, there is nothing wrong with you.
However, there is evidently something very very wrong with your partner.
Are you married? If so, see a solicitor and initiate divorce proceedings. If you aren't married, leave or tell him to leave immediately.
Do you want him to speak to your daughter the way he speaks to you? You and her both will live a life of absolute misery, and I would be surprised if you don't feel that way already.
For the sake of your own sanity and for your daughter, this needs to end now.

also download bright sky app it will open your eyes.

He isn’t good for you or the children. You should leave him.

You’ll probably now say what a great dad he is (apart from these few moments when he loses his temper) and that you love him etc etc

I only looked at one of your other posts, you said basically that you had broken up but got back with him. While you were ‘on a break’ he invited escorts to your house ‘for a chat’ and had lied to you, shouted at you and taken drugs. You were back with him but worried if you could trust him but he was being lovely at the time so thought he’d turned over a new leaf for the best.
Yet, here you are again and will be again and again. Please, don’t carry on your life like this else your dd will be 18 before you know it and you’ll have taught her to accept that a man shouts and screams (and worse) at his partner. You will have wondered why you didn’t leave years ago when you had the chance. That chance is now.

Ignore the stupid comments ‘why are you with him? ‘ this is not your fault and unfortunately it isn’t always so easy to just up and leave immediately (easy for those telling you to, not so easy to do it yourself). Please educate yourself to start with;the app recommended is good , as is the book ‘why does he do that?’ By Lundy Bancroft. If you have a trusted friend then maybe confide in them and make an emergency escape plan for you and your dd, so that if/when the time comes, you have somewhere safe to go temporarily. Please take care .

Definitely agree with that post, start saving money and working out an ‘escape plan’, perhaps your parents would help when the time comes? But make sure you have a plan and start saving now so that you can get out and have a choice for your future.

As a child my dm and dd had horrendous rows . It was awful for me and my dbs . My dad was and still is very angry person so would fly off the handle easily . They would always make up and my dm said it's normal all couples argue. As a adult who has been married with dc for a number of years and yes we have argued many times but neither of us behave like my dad we argue but it's not screaming and scaring the kids , that's not nice and it's frightening for children.
It's easy to say leave him but please think long and hard about your relationship. My dm & dd are still together but is my mum happy no but she'll never leave him because she's convinced herself the times he's in a good mood are worth the horrendous bad moods that she puts up with .
Some people convince themselves that at least he's not hitting me or cheating on me then it's ok he's not that bad .