Hello,
I've never posted on a forum for advice before but I'm looking for some opinions/other points of view.
My other half and I have been together for over 4 years, have lived together most of that time and we have a healthy relationship. There's one thing I'm struggling with however.
Though the week I go to bed quite early, aiming to be asleep for 10pm so I can be up at half 6 for work in the morning. At the weekends, I go to bed a bit later but I'm still an early bird - I just can't sleep in beyond 8am.
My other half has very similar working hours to me but the opposite sleep pattern. He stays up until around midnight through the week and around 2am at weekends. He really struggles to get up in the mornings. He's running late for work quite often but I've stopped chasing him out of bed in the morning as I feel it just causes tension and he should be responsible for getting himself up for work.
At the weekend, I always discuss our plans (individual and joint) in advance to ensure we both have use of the car and can fit in whatever we need and want to do. As I said, I wake up early and will laze around for half an hour, make my cup of tea, get ready and do some quiet tasks to pass the time. I'll then wake him up at the time he asked me to e.g. 10am. Hours can pass between this and him actually getting up. He's also a bit of a procrastinator in the morning and will sit around in between his coffee, the shower, getting dressed etc. We end up not getting out of the house until 2 or 3pm sometimes and it feels such a waste of a day. Sometimes we end up not being able to do what we had planned which can leave me feeling disappointed and unable to make other plans with people at such short notice.
I've tried talking to him about it. I've explained that I can't stay up later through the week but try to at the weekend. I've asked him if he'd come to bed a little earlier one night at the weekend so we can make the most of one of the days.
I don't want to do anything which will come across as hostile such as disappearing out the house without him on a Saturday morning as it might come across I'm taking the car away from him. At the same time, I'm fed up sitting about for hours waiting for him to get up and ready before we can do anything fun or productive with our day.
Has anyone been in a similar situation who has been able to resolve it or compromise?