Is it fair?

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For a mother to take time away from her ex and son just because she has a new bf?

Had the same arrangement for 3 years. The father sees the child eow and one day in the alternative weekend - so they see each other every week.

Ex has said the child is no longer coming for the day as she wants time with the child and her new bf.

Massive massive back story to this which I won't go into BUT what I will say is the mother has had multiple relationships who have been introduced to the child.

This latest one, she ended one relationship, jumped straight into another a week later and within 3 months the new bf has moved in and his kids have been introduced to the child.

The father has tried to offer different ways to see the child but the mum has said no to all. So it's gone from every week to every other week

Mediation is being sorted.

But just wondered if what she is doing is acceptable behaviour regarding reducing contact?

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He will need to take her to court if she isn't agreeable.

Is there a formal court arrangement between the parents, or informal? It clearly needs to be formalised so Dad can ensure contact is not changed on a whim like this. If its an informal agreement - well, this is what can happen.

Court is the only way forward if neither parent will come to (and stick to) an agreement.

If there are genuine concerns about the welfare of the child, why aren't SS involved? Or a court action brought on that basis?

It's always been the same and never changed so there has been no reason to go to court - contact has always been the same and that's always been amicable up until now.

She's refusing to go to mediation as she can't afford it so will more than likely just go straight to court.

I'm just asking on wether anyone thinks what she is doing is fair? From her point she now wants a full weekend with the child. But like I say, this is only because she has a new partner

Well, I think it's unfair really that the mother never has a full weekend with the dc. It's not good to change the pattern of contact without discussion, tho, and without offering an alternative during the week or something.

@category12 i agree but it's been her choice to have it this way from the start. Like i day, 3 years this has been an arrangement for. And it's been so she can maintain a social life. Now that latest bf has come in and his has a court order to some of his kids which means he can't go out so neither will she now. Why is why she now wants the full weekend.

Dh has suggested alternatives but she's said no, from now on it's only eow

He needs to go to court then.

Thanks, it's looking that way