I had a moment of realisation yesterday when my ex and father of my kids started acting disgusted and as if I was asking for the world when I asked him to do something completly reasonable for the kids. I then realised that its a tactic he's used on me for years....eg when we split up i wanted to know what days he wanted to see the kids ...his response..."oh so u got your child maintenence and now you want set days for me to see the kids, I knew you were that type of bitter woman...i suppose you will be telling me i can't see them next etc etc. Its like every reasonable normal thing I have ever asked for I've been made to feel like a complete vile person for even suggesting it. I am asking because after all these years and though we have been seperated for a couple of years I am still trying to understand what the hell happened. I am sure it was emotional abuse and this was just a part of it but not alot of it was the typical stuff I read on the internet.