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Long term friend - FWB or stay friends?

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Icecreamdreammachine · 10/03/2019 07:54

I have NC for this as feel a bit ridiculous not knowing how to proceed (maybe not thinking with my head!! Smile)

Long term friends (10years or so), live in different countries for work but have kept in touch over the years. Both been single over a year. I have not really been interested in anyone, or in putting myself out there, so am aware I am a bit frustrated!

Communication between us became more frequent and we met up a few months ago and there was a lot of chemistry Blush and we are both keen to meet up next time he is back home.

However, there are few signs that this may be moving into an occasional FWB situation, when he comes back to visit. This isn't necessarily a problem - I know him and can trust him and we get on very well...however because we speak nearly every day I think I could easily find myself running away with my feelings. And I know that this is not a good start to FWB!

I think I need to make a decision (for myself) whether I go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is. Or take a step back and just go back to being friends.

Head is overthinking one thing, body says another Blush

Help me see sense Confused

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Notcoolmum · 10/03/2019 07:55

Why couldn’t it be a relationship? 🤔

Icecreamdreammachine · 10/03/2019 08:26

It maybe could be. I won't know really where land lies until I see him again in person.

I think I am maybe inferring the FWB situation from odd comments he's made, the fact we currently are in different countries etc.

I do really overthink things (hence asking on here Grin)
I'd love to be cool and go with the flow, but am very wary of messing things up as the friendship part of our relationship is important to me.

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