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Why can I not get over him?

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Japanesejazz · 09/03/2019 22:03

Nearly 2 years since I last saw him, we never had a cross word. Broke up because of his adult daughter who told other family members that I had assaulted her. I hadn’t and no one believed her, but I couldn’t take that risk because of my job and the fact that there is only me to provide for my daughters. The right decision but, I think of him every day, first thing in the morning and last thing at night. I miss his voice, his smell, his touch, talking to him about my day and listening about his. I don’t want to do any of my favourite things, go to my favourite places, eat my favourite foods because everything reminds me of him. I have blocked him, but he found a way to contact me this week so feeling back at square one. He is a lovely man, he made me smile every day, we shared the same morals beliefs, sense of humour. I’m not interested in dating anyone else because it wouldn’t be fair. Just thinking if this really wasn’t meant to be, I should be feeling better by now

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Japanesejazz · 18/01/2020 00:18

He emailed me 2 weeks ago, 1st message for 18 months
We've messaged a bit
Met tonight for a drink
1st time I've seen him for 2 years
The chemistry is still there, but I'm so wary.
I'm tempted to message him and say lovely to see you but.....
And then I don't know what to say?
Can't really say I can't abide your daughter (she is now 23 and at university) and as she comes home every weekend to stay with you I can't see a future for us?

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PicsInRed · 18/01/2020 00:45

Can't really say I can't abide your daughter (she is now 23 and at university) and as she comes home every weekend to stay with you I can't see a future for us?

Well she's a literal fire starter, whose behaviour he refuses to confront and adequately deal with.

So, yes, you do say that. It would be both true and fair. You and your children are entitled to peace and safety.

Then block him. He's a head fuck who's unlikely to have remained celibate the past few years.

Japanesejazz · 18/01/2020 01:31

It is a head fuck and I will always put my girls first
It's terribly unfortunate that I am hopelessly in love with him

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