I'm pregnant with my first baby, which my husband and I both really wanted, planned and waited 2 years to conceive.
In the early weeks of pregnancy, husband seemed happy and excited about the pregnancy, although he started making a big deal about how we weren't having sex much - even when I repeatedly explained how exhausted I felt, and how it's hard to feel nauseous and sexy at the same time.
I'm now 30 weeks pregnant and in the last few weeks, it feels like he has emotionally withdrawn from both me and the unborn baby.
He's started going out a lot in the evenings and not inviting me, often coming back late at night but not messaging to let me know. When he is here he rarely asks about my day or how I'm feeling. When I've asked if he wants to feel the baby kicking, he's not really interested.
I'd be happy to have sex since the nausea stopped ages ago, but now he has little interest (as he says it's weird knowing there's a baby right there) and isn't particularly cuddly or affectionate either. I suspect my changing body is freaking him out.
I've been having bad mood swings since starting the 3rd trimester, feeling down and weepy a lot. Have tried telling my husband how vulnerable I feel at the moment and that I need him more - i.e. hinting that I would prefer him to spend some time with me instead of going out so much and leaving me here on my own!! He says that's too much pressure to put on him, and he can't be responsible for my happiness. Feels like he's becoming distant and avoidant - but I know that if I push more, he'll back away even further (he tends towards an avoidant attachment style and his mum was emotionally abusive to him as a child).
My main worry is that this will continue once the baby is born and that I'll be very much alone.
Any advice???