I often see replies on this board to the effect of "If you don't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you?" I'm sort of in a situation where I haven't dated for years because I've been dealing with various mental health issues, including but not limited to bulimia and depression. I don't want to be single forever, but on the other hand - I certainly don't love myself, and I don't think I ever will.
I'm hesitant about putting myself out there because, firstly, I'm not thick-skinned enough to do OLD and I don't have the confidence to approach men irl. But I'm also worried that I'd be so grateful for any interest shown in me that I might not have good judgement, and I might attract one of those types of men who seek out insecure women.
Do I risk it anyway or do I have to resign myself to staying single? Is it even fair to enter into a relationship with another person when you know your MH isn't very good? I suppose I've been panicking recently because I'm almost 40 and I know my options will start to get narrower and narrower from now on.