I'm feeling really low

[fellingalone]

Not sure how this will help but a friend told me that talking about my problems is the best way to work through them.

I've changed me nickname cause i'm hoping this all blows over and i can just forget about it all.

I'm 6 months pregnant, been married for over a year and have always thought that me and my DH were really happy.

For some reason over the past week things have changed, my DH is withdrawn, he is moody, seems distant and when i ask whats up he says nothing. Reading this back it seems really silly.

The other night he said he wanted a change, he said he doesn't want to change me but wishes we could do different things, he admitted he was bored - he was perfectly happy with our life until i became pregnant (it was planned). Now i'm really worried he is wishing he wasn't attached and could just be one of the boys again.

Not sure if this makes much sense or even seems like a silly problem but i'm really scared of being on my own with our baby.

Has anyone any advise - how can i sort this.

Feeling alone,

He has said he still wants to be together,so that is a definite positive!

He is maybe getting a bit anxious about being a father and what it all entails,not really sure what to expect.

Can you get out and do things as a couple,go to a restaurant/cinema or something and have some valuable "couple time" before your little one arrives?

Talk things over with him I am sure you will be able to work things out

Good luck with your baby xxx

Hugs,Wrinkly

It's good that he is saying how he feels and not just going along or going out on his own. Having a baby is a big step for us all and maybe he is just getting a little worried about all the financial and personal responsibility. Try to keep talking and tell him you are scared hopefully being open will help you both. Sorry you are in this situation, it's not nice.

It sounds like the changes that are going to happen in your lives when the baby's born are just starting to dawn on him!

If I were you I wouldn't worry too much, try to still be nice and loving towards him cause if you start pulling away it'll probably make him feel worse.

If you think about it, all the changes are happening to you at the moment - your body, your hormones, and he's just kind of watching!, I think it takes men that bit longer to click in to what's happening.

Just give him some time and try to keep doing the things you've always done so he doesn't feel like the pregnancy /baby is changing too much all of a sudden...after all men are such fragile creatures!!

he sounds scared and unsure now that you have got to this stage.you have not been married long,maybe it all feels a bit too much too soon to him?

i don't think there's much you can do really,other than give him some space and hope for the best!!

I'm really trying to keep everything the same but its hard - some stuff just needs to change. i'm tired all the time, feel like a whale and i am trying to involve him in all baby stuff.

As far as the talking goes, right now all i do is cry - then he feels he can't talk to me cause i get so upset but it just happens and when the tears start they don't stop.

I understand that there are lots of changes for him but i'm going through it too and i'm not taking it out on him. I'm trying do hard not to be different with him but its hard.

FA ,it is normal to be tired towards the end of pregnancy,but maybe you could have your blood checked to ensure you are not anaemic

When you say "crying all the time" is this weepiness and negative feelings that do not go away?How long have you felt like this?I am not saying that you have it but it is recognised that ladies can get ante-natal depression.

Try to keep talking to him

If you are feeling sad ALL the time I would try to discuss it with your midwife/GP

Hope you are feeling better soon.xx

hi

I have been thinking about what you said wrinklytum. The cryng seems to only come along when i try to talk to dh about whats happening. Don't get me wrong there have been a few tears at other points but nothing that would make me think i'm depressed.

However thinking about that spurred me on to get it all off my chest and tell DH exactly how i'm feeling about things.

I think there is an element where we are both scared but didn't want to admit this to each other. We talked some last night and i managed not to get too upset. We also talked again this morning and things seem fine tonight.

We have arranged to go away for the weekend which should be nice and are going to try and spend as much us time as possible before bump arrives.

Thanks for the advice

That's really great that you have managed to talk things through,am really for you.

Parenthood is such a BIG change to your life,it really is an eternal rollercoaster.

It is tiring,hard work but ultimately very rewarding watching your child grow and develop their own personality.

Good luck with your baby keep us posted on how you get on