I'm getting married next year. My fiancé and I have a DD together, at the time of her birth we were not engaged but planned to marry so we gave her my OH's last name.
I sort of begrudge losing my last name and am toying with the idea of double barrelling. I want to have the same name as my DD and husband but I also love my last name.
My OH does not want to take my last name but says he would've agreed to our DD having both our last names. I feel it's too late to change her name, she has 2 middle names and we chose her first name based on how it sounded with her last name so it would become a mouthful and not flow as nicely as it does now. I wish I'd thought of it at the time and only given her one middle name but again, I will not change that now as they are special, family names.
So my question, and I'd love to hear from women who've double barrelled their last names, am I creating a life of hassle having a double barrelled last name when my husband and child/ren will only have the single name?
For context: My name won't be being carried any further it'll end with me but my thinking is that it will at least last longer than if it were to end here.
My surname is used frequently at work and so I'd either stay as what I am now or become Mrs Fiancé's name because calling me by the double barrelled name would be too much faff on a daily basis.
I would be the odd one out in my family on passports etc but equally I love my name and want to keep it.. I just don't know what to do and I'd love to hear your experiences with this.