Sorry if this is going to be a long post. The thing we argue most often about is sex. He seems to want it every day and gets sulky if he doesn’t get it. We tend to have it about 2 (sometimes 3) times a week. He went to sleep in the spare room last night as I was tired after work and taking my 5 yr old daughter to her swim lesson (with 2 year old in tow).
I do all the child care. He leaves for work before they get up and gets home just in time to have dinner with them (most but not all nights) then I bath them and put them to bed while he tidies up dinner. We split the cleaning to be fair to him. But he seems to think that as I only work 3 days a week I shouldn’t be tired, despite the fact that I do all the child care, all the grocery shopping, all the cooking (he never even makes suggestions of ideas for dinner) and all the ironing.
Ironically i’m put off by the digs he makes if it’s been more than a couple days in between sex which means I leave it more as I feel pressured. He then gets quite cold and sleeps in the spare room which makes matters worse. We just seem stuck in a rut going in circles. I always seem to be the one to give in as I want to be close as when we are we get on so well and I love him.
Not sure where i’m going with this to be honest. Just he seems to think i’m Being unreasonable for sex always being “on my terms” as he puts it and I think he is being unreasonable to expect so much of it?
I’d really appreciate anyone else’s point of view and any advice on how we can get past this.