relationship issues pls help

[mamaa]

hello. ive never wrote on here before but been having issues in my relationship recently- we are young he has 2 sons 1 with me.. anyway relationship always been fine until i became pregnant(son now 2.5yrs) one night OH fell asleep so i went on his phone to set his alarms but opened it on a dating site there were no messages except a few old men writing hello how are you and him just saying fine and that was that. He said it was through a friend at work he had that site anyway i let that slip and we moved on from that... till a few months ago i started to feel he was distant with me and i kept asking he said it was just him being tired etc anyway i went onto his computer history and found porn... gay porn... i was so shocked i was sick for days he said it was nothing and just looked out of curiosity.... his dog then died and so did his dad and his cat so obviously alot to take in in a space of a few months.... but now our relationship is on the rocks he is now saying he is depressed and has anxiety which i dont know what to believe anymore i want to believe him as clearly its very hard grieving everythings happened at the worst time ugh i just dont know what to do :( is it normal for men to watch gay porn or do yous think theres more to this? He is the least gay person i know but our sexual relationship is pretty non existent he says he has no sex drive anymore but i just dont know what to believe anymore my trust has totally gone from everyone and i just keep pushing people away i know i should be there for him with his dad just dying but its so so so hard am i just being selfish i need someone to be honest pleaseeee i just feel like i get nothing back is this normal with depression but then its been going on before his dad etc i dont know guys someone help me :(

He's bisexual if not gay and contacting other men. He's basically cheating on you. Its sad that his Dad died but that doesn't change what he's been doing. You can do much better op

thank you for your reply, i think i needed someone elses option as its eating me alive!! Hes at work at the moment i dont even know where to start :(

Sorry I don't think it's that clear cut. I watch porn involving women, but am not gay. There's also no proof of meeting or cheating. I think you need to talk honestly to each other rather than jump to conclusions. He has had a lot of loss, of course this could affect his sex drive and behaviour. Talk to him!

thank you for your reply and your opinion, im struggling ive no idea this is what i want to believe but its just so hard. What do you think to the dating app it never bothered me before but now the porn thing has come up its made me question everything. Im the worlds worst over thinker so not sure if im just over thinking it to much.. is it normal for men to watch gay porn there was no ladies just men xx

Watching gay porn and on a gay dating app, I am sorry but I do think you are in denial here

He doesn't sound ready to admit it to himself, but that doesn't mean you can't deal with it. Even if it wasn't gay, he was still on a dating app!!

From my experience I would say it is not normal for straight men to watch gay porn.

thank you for taking time to reply to me, i really appreciate your opinion. Im lost ive no idea what to do honestly all i want to do is wake up from this nightmare :(

I’m with ErickBroch on this. Women’s sexuality is a lot more fluid than Men’s. I personally, think he’s gay & hasn’t accepted it himself yet. I also think him sending messages on a dating site is out of order. You need to end things with him (& hopefully this will be the push he needs to accept his own sexuality)