AIBU or am I overreacting?

[lankymoose]

I had an argument this morning with DH over his approach to IWM!

So, I come form a family where we always celebrated international woman's day, not just in the name of women's right but in the name of equality. DH knows this, this has been discussed/said many times.

This morning I wished DH a happy IWD when he woke up to which he replied 'but you didn't wish me a happy International men's day. I didn't know this exists?! He pulls his phone out and shows me it does. Ok, I said, lets observe the day today and teach our children about that. DH then goes into our DS (9yrs) room to wake him up and tells him: 'Its IWM go wish mum a happy one', DS asks his dad what is 'IWD? DH: 'It's just some made up nonsense!'

AIBU to be really angry over this?

I refused to talk to DH after that even tho he tried but only followed with remarks such as getting our DS to mark the int. mens day in family calendar etc.

Does your husband treat you, and all women, with respect? Is he a good man, who role models the right way to interact with women?

If so, then his opinion on IWD itself doesn't really matter that much - he is perfectly entitled to be cynical about it, but proves through his actions that he lives the right way. If he doesnt treat women with respect, then that's your real issue.

As for giving him the silent treatment, that's a pretty unhealthy relationship habit. Do you do that often?

I come form a family where we always celebrated international woman's day, not just in the name of women's right but in the name of equality
This made me laugh....but each to their own i guess.

DS (9yrs).... asks his dad what is 'IWD?
This has had me in stitches

I'd be pretty pissed off about that as it shows he really doesn't understand the 'why' of IWD.

Well must be a fairly quiet celebration if you've a son who has no clue what it even is.

Are you bored and just making up bollocks?

for context, I work in an industry that despite being dominated by women, is not dominated by women (or even have the percentages accurately reflected) at senior management level and where plenty of companies had substantial gender pay gaps.

When that is not longer the case, then I might think there's no need for IWD.

And that's just in the UK...

I did not expect any special treatment or 'congrats

What exactly would be congratulate you on? Being a woman? 🤣

you're right, women were second rate citizens where a grew up, so the holiday is indeed very hypocritical. on 8th march we celebrated liberation, right to vote, schooling and going out to work (along with all their household duties women 'earned' all these xtras!). we celebrated by remembering mothers and aunts who fought for those rights and often died from their very own husbands or fathers hands.

yes he is a good and respectful husband. yet he is generally quite cynical (some find it funny) but that can makes me feel belittled.

When that is not longer the case, then I might think there's no need for IWD.

International womens day has been going for 100 years. How does it fix anything? Companies make a show for today and the that's it done.

Again, making IWD a national holiday hasn't really helped the women in those countries

OP what do you do to celebrate and why doesnt your son know what it is?

Your husband is right to be cynical. IWD is a stunt. It's not helping wome at all.